Thursday Talk Series | Augustine Ojeh Seeks Clarity of Purpose

Rigozo

Let’s play a game. Not Squid Game guys (I haven’t watched the movie but a lot of you are very loud about it). This game is simple and nonfatal, please. I want you to read the sentence below, and as you do so count the number of Fs that you find.

Awesome. How many Fs did you find? 3, 4, 5, or 6? Click here to see the answer and find out whether you are smart or not. Did you get the right answer? 😁😏

Moving on. Today, I’ll be introducing Augustine Ojeh. Let me confess. I have reason to believe that he gets high from giving expression and meaning to the world around him with words. Having recently made his acquaintance, I have no informed impression of his person. However, I can tell you that I deduced he’s a craftsman who has a sizzling relationship with words by stalking his Instagram page. Yes, that’s right! I did that. I was curious you see, and best believe that now I want to know even more about him.😂 I’m aware that he’s an earnest coach – ready to teach and also learn. He’s a book-lover, has no pet that I know of, is a certified night owl, and is an amazing writer and editor.


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. Augustine Ojeh here. Somewhere deep down, I reaffirm myself to be a genius but, in reality, I’m just another nobody, scratching his way upwards and seeking clarity of purpose. In my quest for clarity, I read books. I wouldn’t say it’s been a lot of books but enough to heighten my curiosity and desire to teach. What better way to learn than to teach? So, I’m a writer, editor, and writing coach. I write about business growth, global and workplace sustainability, diversity (gender, racial, and cultural), economics, and a pinch of psychology (for the love of it). However, I’m a questioner of illogical religious doctrines and the credulity of its believers. Some (including clergymen) have called me an Atheist but I’ll excuse their assertions to their purportedly ill understandings of Atheism.

Augustine Ojeh at his favorite space that he calls Saturn
Augustine Ojeh

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. I wouldn’t say that I have a job. Just as footballers never called playing soccer a job, writing has never been a job to me. At least, I’ve never seen it that way and probably never will. I’d do something else if it has a negative opportunity cost, like starting and building a business which I’m already doing (won’t say more than that). However, I doubt if any of that would stop me from writing.

Q. What’s your idea of real success and how can it be achieved?

A. The “real” seems weird. Success is never faked. And, in my opinion, there’s no rigid formula to achieving it. I have several ideas of success, depending on what area of my life is under the magnifying lenses. In marriage, parenting, career, mental development, and all others, the ideas of success change. The methods to achieving each also vary. In marriage and mental development, for instance, stern principles are important while in parenting and career, flexibility and amenability to change are virtues.

Q. What is your morning routine like?

A. a. Wake up by 9:00 AM. That alarm is annoying and the funny thing is that the 9 am alarm description reads, “OJEH, YOU’VE GOT 1,440 MINUTES TODAY. NOW, GET IN THE TOILET, YOU PISS OF SHIT!”

b. Sit on the toilet seat for 30 minutes (maybe drop some poops if there’s any coming. Eewww! But it does feel good.)

c. Bath right after.

d. Brew some coffee in the kitchen.

e. Read three important newsletters [from the New York Times (US), The Economist (UK), and Punch (NG)] while I wait for coffee.

f. Read and respond to emails.

g. Update my to-dos for the day.

Q. What two things do you think of the most each day and why?

A. I’m not sure there are any two particular things that I think about each day. However, my mind has been occupied by the book project that I’m working on recently. And why does that occupy my mind? Of course, you know. I think the second thing that fills my head is the business that I’m creating (but I won’t say more). It’s on my mind often because it should be. Nevertheless, I’ve got my family sitting pretty at the corner of my mind. They never leave there.

Q. How do you manage to deal with stress as you work?

A. I use the gym when the spirit leads but mostly in the evenings. I take long walks to clear my head also. And I play snooker as often as I can. It’s an opportunity to meet new faces and share a good laugh. It does help deal with the stress, no doubt. Chess also comes in handy when I’m a bit unhappy or frustrated.

Q. What do you feel is the difference between living and existing?

A. The difference is our perception of time. For those existing, time travels through them. So, they often sit pretty as time rides along. Living puts you in a race against time. It gives essence to time. It’s the reason 24 hours is too short for one day. If only it could be 28. Pfffft! But a jolly race against time without prizes to pick at random stops is a spokeless wheel.

Augustine Ojeh

Q. What was the last book you read and what can you say about it?

A. Perfectly Confident by Don A. Moore (Ph.D.). I think Professor Moore does have a lot to say about the dangers of blind optimism and unbacked confidence. I’d say the book is excellently written and laced with relatable research, accurate accounts of events, and exciting exercises to help you stay on track.

Q. Do you think we have a greater purpose or are we just waiting for our turn to die?

A. I think we are on a lap to create our heaven or hell. When this lap is over, we would return to the life that we created, clueless about how and when we created them. So, yes, we do have a purpose albeit its greatness is relative.

I wouldn’t say that I have a job. Just as footballers never called playing soccer a job, writing has never been a job to me. At least, I’ve never seen it that way and probably never will. I’d do something else if it has a negative opportunity cost, like starting and building a business which I’m already doing (won’t say more than that). However, I doubt if any of that would stop me from writing.

Augustine Ojeh on Thursday Talk Series

Q. What is that thing that you see as an obstacle that can stop you from having success?

A. Death.


Thank you very much for the interview, Augustine. I’m really glad to have met you and I look forward to all the amazing things you are set to do. For everyone still reading, thank you for being here. Wish you a spectacular Thursday.

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Thursday Talk Series| Idowu As A Living Oracle

Rigozo

Holla! Have you listened to Ed Sheeran – Shivers? You should do – like right now – I don’t mean now, but after you’ve read today’s Thursday Talk Series you can skedaddle outta here and go listen to Eddie’s latest song if pop is your kind of jam. All week I had it on repeat. The first time I listened to the song I started dancing even though I’m a tragic dancer. I hope I’m never asked to dance to save my life because it would be my obituary. Yes, that bad. But Ed’s Shivers is that good.

Standing on non-existing protocols, I’d like to introduce Idowu Adeyemi, The Oracle (it’s a fact that I always hear a thunderous cheer anytime he’s introduced). If Orishás (traditional Yoruba spirits) walked the earth, it is safe to say that Idowu is an ancient spirit trapped in a human body, but still offering service to humankind. His personality shines through in all of his affairs, and the work that he puts into the things he’s passionate about places him above his peers (notice I didn’t say he puts passion into his work). He’s also one of the best people that I have been privileged to know. He’s a dreamer by nature, a lawyer by profession, and an Orator by might. I believe the world is waiting to know a man like Idowu, and soon they’ll get to meet him. When he’s not busy with legal matters, he reads (African literature is his favorite), cooks, listens to music, take short walks, and engages in lively discussions (from how to develop the reading culture of Young Africans to the which housemate was evicted on BBN).

Trivia about Idowu

He loved to watch Bollywood😂😂😭❤️

Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. My name is Idowu Olamilekan Adeyemi but my friends and fans like to call me “The Oracle.” Not that I truly believe that I’m one but it has a nice ring to it, so I stick to it. I am a Lawyer with my practice areas including Intellectual Property Law, Corporate and Commercial Practice, Legal drafting, Research and Writing. So, if you are ever in need of my services, don’t hesitate to reach out. I am also trying to get a Communication Consulting Company off the ground and I am optimistic it will turn out great pretty soon.

Idowu Adeyemi after Law School
Idowu Olamilekan Adeyemi

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. I have to say that I am not one of those privileged people who have the incredible gift of knowing what exactly they want to do with their lives from an early stage. I was a commercial student throughout my secondary school but then I stumbled on law when I was going to write my o’ levels exam and it felt like the right thing to do because it aligned with my natural abilities but then I got to the University and it felt like a total disaster. It took me another year after law school to fall in love with this profession. So, I practice law because I finally believe that this where I am meant to be and I am good at it and it does align with a major part of my personality not to mention the fact that money doesn’t hurt too. As far as doing something else goes, I won’t. I will rather complement my law practice with other creative endeavors that I am certain I have abilities for.

Q. When have you felt like giving up?

A. Good gracious! That has been too many times already. In fact, it use to be everyday. Being a person with disability and living in an unstructured society like Nigeria is a double jeopardy to say the least. And a specific instance of such frustration will be when a prospective employer hinted at my disability as the reason for not getting the job. This had happened more than once but this particular day, I went back home depressed and I was sure I was never going to try again. But after hunger waya my head for a couple of days, I needed no extra motivation. Lol. I figured if the society is not going to give me a space, I can either take it or create one for myself and that is what I have been doing since that time.

Idowu living in the moment at sunrise

Q. What two things do you think of the most each day and why?

A. I think about self and professional development. I want to be the best at whatever I do. My career and future mean a lot to me and I am always thinking about how many positive steps I have taken each day to get closer to it. I think about family too. A lot, but that is a story for another day. Lol.

Q. What have you accomplished so far that has made you proud?

A. Honestly, I have a lot of things to be grateful for. But what I am proud of the most is the fact that I am able to attain independence. My worst fear growing up use to be that I will forever be dependent as a person with disability. It hunted me so bad that I use to cry in my private space but today, e no too hard to drink small garri and groundnut daily. Lol.

The Oracle having a good time
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Q. If money was not relevant, what would you do all day?

A. I will sit with peers and engage in interesting and intelligent conversations all day. I will sit with old people and listen to stories about the past and learn more about our various cultures and languages. I will spend more time trying to understand the dynamics and the diversity of humanity. I sure as hell will travel a lot and explore the world beyond my immediate reality and environment.

Q. What kind of people do you allow in your circle?

A. All kinds of people. Everyone is welcome, as long as you are kind, empathetic and you can show and appreciate love. Tribe, race, religion, class and other basis of discrimination do not apply in my relationships.

Q. Do you consider that people are basically good or bad?

A. I think we are both and I think we are more than that. Humanity is complex, it will be cheap oversimplification to say we are either just good or bad. The part of us that we exhibit however is dependent on various factors; like the part of us we have nurtured the most, socialization process, level of knowledge and exposure, how complex the dilemma we are presented with is at the point of making each decision and a lot more. We can only try to do the right thing but we have to admit that we will not always get it right and that’s okay.

Idowu ‘The Oracle’ in Ibadan

It took me another year after law school to fall in love with this profession. So, I practice law because I finally believe that this where I am meant to be and I am good at it and it does align with a major part of my personality not to mention the fact that money doesn’t hurt too. As far as doing something else goes, I won’t. I will rather compliment my law practice with other creative endeavors that I am certain I have abilities for.

Idowu Adeyemi, ‘The Oracle’ on Thursday Talk Series.

Q. What is your biggest complaint about this country?

A. It’s the lack of a system for me. You cannot single out a sector in Nigeria where things are working the way they should. Everyone just dey freestyle and living each day as it comes. It’s pathetic!

Q. What is the one thing you think that should be taught in school about choosing a career that isn’t?

A. Actually, for me, it’s two things. First, it’s okay to figure out your career path much later after school. It doesn’t mean you are a loser or irresponsible or dumb. It only means you are yet to find yourself and that can take a lot of time for some people and it’s absolutely alright. Just don’t give up on yourself. Whenever you wake up is your morning. All you need do, no matter how long it takes is ensure that you wake up. Second, do not underestimate the power of social capital. Great people in your circle are worth infinitely more than money. So, build relationships and don’t burn bridges. When you finally wake up, those people will be there to say good morning to you and help you get off to a beautiful day ahead.


Thank you so much, Idowu for the interview and I wish you all the best. Remember that your dreams are as great as you envision them to be and it’s only a matter of time. And to everyone still reading thank you so much. Also, you can like, comment and share. Have a lovely Thursday.

Below is a little something I wrote for Idowu a while back, hope you enjoy it.

The Oracle,

When they started calling you ‘The Oracle’ back in school, I teased you at every given opportunity. Well, that was my job description as your friend and sometimes tormentor. I tried my best to be at all of your competitions anyway. 

In a packed lecture hall, when it was your turn to speak, I could sink my teeth into the tension in the air. Maybe I didn’t hear all that you said, and that was the least reason why I was there anyway. The main reason was to watch people as they listened to you. 

To see a mass of bodies lean a little further, hold their breaths, and scream as one at the words you said, was euphoric. That you held sway over the emotions and the actions of people was in itself a form of power. And that was when I realized that you may not be a deity, but you were at those moments the most powerful person in the room. 

Dedicated to Idowu Adeyemi.

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Thursday Talk Series| Live and Love Your Life By Noah

Holla fellas. It feels good to be back this thursday. I’d give you a high five, but you know that’s not possible. Hope you’ve had an awesome week so far. My biggest takeaway this week about life: We can evade reality, but we cannot evade the consequences of evading reality – Ayn Rand.

I’m beyond excited to have Noah here. I thought this introduction would be my easiest yet but mehn I thought wrong. When I first met Noah years ago in Kaduna, it was the breezy, hello and goodbye kinda meeting. He was the boy next door…very cliché, or so I thought (wrong, again). He’d acknowledge my presence with a smile, a nod, or a few words sometimes. However, there were days when he was withdrawn, I felt like condensed air or a fly on the wall. Because he sings beautifully, I suspect a tune plays in his head that shuts out the world. “Yeah, whatever, I don’t care, ” but I did, a lot more than I cared to admit. Maybe I wore him down with my charming/annoying self, or maybe he and his folks took me on as a charity case (I was the new crazy Lagos girl), but things got better. I’ve gotten to know Noah and it has been precious. He is one of my book/music plugs; we have almost the same taste to my surprise (hooked me up with Tomi Adeyemi, Kevin Kwan, Laini Taylor, The Chainsmokers, Calum Scott, etc, and I shared my pancakes with him). He’s a yogi (the serious ones unlike me), and he grows all kinds of plants (he gave me my first lovely aloe vera bush, Catherina, and still helps me with her because I’m not a good plant mom). He’s diligent, dependable, has a wicked sense of humor (aka bad mouth), and can sing every song that Adele has released. Let’s meet Noah☺️


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. My name is Noah Yari. I am a consultant with an organization that mentors entrepreneurs.

Noah Yari in his traditional attire
Noah Yari


Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. I do it because I’ve discovered that Ihave a passion for helping people. I get to meet and interact with such beautiful souls and help them rewrite their stories. It’s very fulfilling work. I love what I do. I wouldn’t change it.


Q. What have you accomplished so far that has made you proud?

A. First of all, I don’t believe that you have to accomplish something grand to be proud of yourself. I would say my biggest accomplishment is overcoming depression, self-doubt and anxiety. I used to be quite a basket-case. LOL

Q. What do you appreciate about yourself and what would you like to CHANGE?

A. What I appreciate most about myself is my will power. I’ve realised that I am my only problem and I am the only solution .

Q. Would you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert and why?

A. I would describe myself as an introvert, mostly because everyone I know says so. I enjoy my own company but I also enjoy the company of others, especially when we are on the same altitude.

Q. If you win a million dollars, what would you do?

A. I’d buy my parents a new house. They deserve that much.

Q. I’ll What do you feel is the difference between living and existing?

A. I always answer this question with that old saying ‘the grass always looks greener on the other side’. I feel people who believe this are those who are just existing and waiting for life to happen to them. I believe that someone who is truly living won’t have the time to compare his ‘grass’ with others because they’ll be too busy watering theirs and making life happen. Don’t wait for life to happen to you, happen to life, and just enjoy the ride, that’s living.

Q. What was the last book you read and what can you say about it?

A. The Girl With The Louding Voice by Abi Daré. It’s a coming of age story about a poor girl with big dreams who refused to be a victim of her circumstances. What I love most about it is that it was written by a Nigerian and set in Nigeria. It was utterly refreshing.

I always answer this question with that old saying ‘the grass always looks greener on the other side’. I feel people who believe this are those who are just existing and waiting for life to happen to them… someone who is truly living won’t have the time to compare his ‘grass’ with others because they’ll be too busy watering theirs and making life happen. Don’t wait for life to happen to you, happen to life, and just enjoy the ride, that’s living.

Noah Yari on Thursday Talk Series

Q. Do you believe aliens exist, if yes, what are they like?

A. I believe aliens exist because the size of the universe is in comprehensively large. It can’t be just us. I don’t know what they’re like but if I were to guess, I’d say they’re not that different from us on the inside. By this I mean they have souls and can experience love, sorrow and pain. I believe they have brains too!

Q. What is that thing that you see as an obstacle which can stop you from having success?

A.The only thing that can stop me from achieving success is not a ‘thing’ really. It’s God. Only the Big Guy/Gal can stop me.


Thank you, Noah, for showing up and I didn’t even have to resort to threats😂 It’s a lazy Thursday guys and I could use a break. If you are still here, thank you so much for reading. Don’t forget to like, share and leave a comment.

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Thursday Talk Series On Lara of The Wildfire

Rigozo

Fam! Lately, my thoughts are so random, all over the place, and I accuse my mind of deliberately playing ping-pong just to mess with me. I decided to do a bit of self-reflection the other day, you know, ask myself tough questions like, ‘Is it that time of the month? Bank account gathering dust? Did I put on weight or did my jeans shrink? Valid questions. So, I got my answer but I didn’t like it one bit. Lo and behold, I’m suffering from an acute case of nostalgia. Sucks! Now that I have been diagnosed, I just want to find the cure and get well. But now my other self is looking at me and tutting because she says I can only feel better without my memories. I completely agree with her. I think selective amnesia is the way forward, except I can’t just keep the good memories and get rid of the bad. For the time being I’m stuck hauling my nostalgia around like some twisted trophy.

Moving on. Today I have Lara and I’m excited that she’s here as always. I’ve come to understand that people are a lot like mold, they can be found everywhere. However, quite a few of them stick around you and become something more. That’s why Lara of the Wildfire, as she prefers to be called, reminds me of music in all the years that I’ve known her. Sometimes Lara is like a concerto featuring an orchestra of strings, keys, and horns. Other times she’s a solo flute with dark haunting notes. Or a she’s a soft hum you’d have to strain very hard to listen to or else she’d slip away when you least expect, and all that will be left is a terrible ache. She’s like the kind of music that leaves you feeling more than you bargained for. Lara also loves stargazing, writes love letters to the moon, keeps a cat or two as her familiar, and crushes on book characters.😌


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. Heyyyy! My name is Agbaje Olohuntosin Omolara. Most people call me Lara, a few people call me Shukrah, but I really prefer Lara of the Wildfire. It’s quite a mouthful, but it’s such a sexy name! I’m a content manager, so this means I create content for different brands. Blog content, social media content, email content and the works. I’m also training to become a product designer, because tech is where the money’s at, yo!

Lara sitting at a high point in Ibadan
Agbaje Olohuntosin Omolara

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. I started in the world of content creation because of my natural flair for writing. I studied Chemistry at The University of Ibadan, yeah? But after graduation, I started getting writing gigs and it just went on from there. Currently, I’m hella tired of the content world. I’m a creative writer above all else, but this job is sucking the joy out of writing for me, and I’ll very much like to stop before that happens. And that’s the real reason why I am training to be a product designer.

Q. What is the best thing about what you do?

A. Seeing as I’m tired of the job, this might be difficult to answer. But if I absolutely have to, I’ll say the best thing about it is the fact that I get to do it from home. I honestly can’t imagine a world where I have to leave my house every day for work. Am die, mehn.

Q. What do you appreciate about yourself and what would you like to change?

A. I absolutely love how creative I am, especially with words. I can make a story out of any situation and that keeps me entertained, you know? Reality can be too much a lot of times, these stories I tell myself kind of make things easier. What I would love to change…well. I tend to be very forgetful, geez! I would definitely want to change this.

Q. Do you consider that people are basically bad or basically good?

A. Good or bad? Wow. That’s an overly simplistic way to categorize people that are anything but. I don’t believe one person is just good, or that another is just bad. I strongly believe that good and bad is something that we all carry within us, and what we exhibit is the side we nurture. Besides, we never really know what we’ll do in a situation until we’re actually living in it. Will I do the ‘good’ thing when xxx happens? Honestly, there is no telling. I could be a monster.

Q. What kind of people do you allow into your circle?

A. Kind people. I love love kind, deliberate people. Also, I have a natural affinity for writers, readers and dreamers. I kind of just meet them and we decide to do life together.

Q. What have you accomplished so far that has made you proud?

A. I recently published my debut book, Letters, Stamps and Seals, and that book is literally a part of my soul set on paper for the whole world to see. I was freaking terrified before it was published, but I’m also damn proud of myself for what I have done with that book.

Lara at her book launch, Letter, Stamps and Seals

Q. What two things do you think of the most each day and why?

A. (Insert laughing emoji) Food and money na. I never know what to eat, and I like food die! So that’s kind of a recurrent thought. I’m always thinking of money as well, because tbh, money can solve A LOT of your problems! To quote Ari, “Whoever said money can’t solve your problems must not have had enough money to solve em.”

Q. If money was not relevant, what would you do all day?

A. I’ll read! Fantasy, YA, Sci-Fi, Thriller,Poetry, any damn thing that catches my eyes, I’ll read it! I can already picture me lounging all day, reading, drinking tea and eating cake. I’ll also travel a lot and take a lot of landscape pictures. To paraphrase something one of my favorite IG poets said, I have a spinning compass where my heart should be. If money isn’t an issue, I’ll let that compass take me everywhere.

I recently published my debut book, Letters, Stamps and Seals, and that book is literally a part of my soul set on paper for the whole world to see. I was freaking terrified before it was published, but I’m also damn proud of myself for what I have done with that book.

Agbaje Olohuntosin Omolara on Thursday Talk Series

Q. If like a movie your life up to this point is played for you to watch, describe how you’d feel about it?

A. I’d probably say something along the lines of ‘Why the fu*k am I being made to watch this?” while I cringe and try not to die from second-hand embarrassment.


Thank you Lara for the interview, it was my pleasure and all the best with product designing. And thank you guys for showing up every Thursday.❤️

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I’m reading Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged, and the book has taken over my life. Literally. It’s Thursday already, you see what I’m saying. The last thing I remember was diving into the book, and that was Monday. A little something from that corner.

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Thursday Talk Series | Deep Conversations With Jiya

Rigozo

This is for anybody out there who is struggling to meet deadlines and is feeling overwhelmed by life in general. It’s not easy to work on so many projects at the same time without running the risk of neglecting one or two and then feeling like a total loser because of it. I have a lot going on right now guys and I am cutting really close to my deadlines and losing sleep. I have found that if not properly managed it affects my ability to focus and be creative. I try to tell myself that this too shall pass, and I’m working towards creating a more productive space for myself🤞🏾 I’ll share tips/tools that I’m currently utilizing to help step up my working game, but that will be another day.

Let me introduce Jiya, it’s really great to have him here. So Jiya gives off the first impression that he can be easily read but really he’s a lot like Rubik’s Cube, cool and complex. One moment you think you have him all figured out, and then wham! he reveals another side of himself that is totally unexpected. Jiya is also the one person to call if you need to keep the place alive with humor and terrific/deep conversations (obsessed with his voice and for a good reason; he sounds like raw honey and spice😌). He personal exudes self-awareness, and he’s introspective, intense, and very passionate


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. Sure! I’m Daniel Jiya Majin, but I mostly go by Jiya. I’m a Podcaster, Story Writer, and Singer. I love Anime, deep discussions, music, and women.

Daniel Jiya Majin

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. I do my job because it’s what I can do with the least amount of stress for money. I don’t know if it’s fair to say I’d rather do something else. It’s more like I’d rather do a more polished and complete version of what I currently do, that makes more money.

Q. What’s your idea of real success and how can it be achieved?

A. Success to me is being able to live and thrive off doing the things you want to do. The things you really want to do. I want to have interesting and deep conversations with people. I want to write compelling and heart-felt stories that touch people. I want to stir hearts with my voice, If I can ever make a living from doing these things, I win. That’s a success.

Q. What do you appreciate about yourself and what would you like to change?

A. I appreciate that I’m not afraid to look inward to see what’s wrong. I appreciate that I have a kind heart even though I feel like it makes me weak. I appreciate that I’m somewhat intelligent. I appreciate my fantastic physical frame. I wish I could change my work ethic. I wish I could change my inability to handle failure properly. I wish I could change my emotional insecurities. I wish I was more driven and motivated.

Q. If you could, what’s the one thing you’d change about the world?

A. The lack of understanding between people. It’s crazy how many misunderstandings and a lack of connection set us back as a people.

Q. What do you perceive your biggest losses are, financially or people?

A. I actually think they’re more personal, but I’ll put down my desire to flog myself. Definitely financial. I’m actually blessed to still be surrounded by so many wonderful people.

Q. What kind of people do you allow into your circle?

A. People who show an interest in me, people who listen and think, and most importantly, people I like.

Q. If money was not relevant, what would you do all day?

A. Sing, play competitive video games, exercise, smoke weed with my friends, and talk about our experiences.

Q. What superpowers would you like to have and why?

A. Reading minds. Cuz control over the heart and mind is the ultimate power.

Jiya

Success to me is being able to live and thrive off doing the things you want to do. The things you really want to do….have interesting and deep conversations…write heart felt stories that touch people…stir hearts with my voice, If I can ever make a life from doing these things, I win. That’s success.

Q. What’s the one thing you think that should be taught in school about choosing a career that isn’t?

A. That it’s okay to figure out what you want as you go along. A lot of the time we get put in boxes yeah? Then we’re constantly told “think out of the box”. But they never teach you how.


Thank you Jiya for the interview and to everyone reading, hope you have a fabulous Thursday.

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Thursday Talk Series on How To Create Like Mage

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My week? Well, it wasn’t bad but I really don’t want to talk about it. Today’s rant will be about something different. Can somebody please tell me how is it possible that we are in August, less than five months before we tell 2021 bye- bye. Was it not just yesterday we were all welcoming the new year? Because the year’s drawing to a close already. It’s happening, and I expect it will still throw surprises our way in the typical fashion of our world, and maybe I’m freaking out like the Barca fans because the future’s muddied with unforeseen events, but can you blame me? I’m aware that it’s no new phenomenon that time passes (flows with the natural order of the universe) but I’m known to be dramatic like that. What of you? How do you feel about the world year coming to an end? Leave a comment.

Okay, for today’s interview, we have a real OG, literally. Meet Samuel but everyone calls him OG Mage or Mage (His real name has been shelved for all of eternity). People say they know who they are and are comfortable with it, but not everyone who says this is able to show it. Mage however is the former; his aura alone speaks that he knows what he’s all about and he’s not shy to show it. From dominating a room to paying attention to the littlest details, he balances nerd and swag so well (imagine if Peter Parker got over his social awkwardness). Mage is also passionate about the things that he loves and he shares it recklessly with the people he cares about (he really can’t help it😂) and it’s so interesting to watch him in his element. Shall we?


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. My name Samuel Ogaba. But nobody calls me any of that, lol. On these streets, I’m know as “Mage”, “OG” or “OG Mage”. I know, I know… it’s a long story. I am from Benue State, Nigeria. The second of five children (I have an elder brother and three sisters). I’m a Software Engineer (At least that’s what my employment letter says). I work with a Canadian SaaS company. In reality, I’m a creator. I like to create things and Software was just another channel to create. But, when I’m not writing code or doing software related stuff, you’d find me Making music (writing, composing, recording, mixing and mastering etc.); indulging in creative arts (I draw, paint and meddle with some other art forms) and gaming (I’m definitely trying to go pro with this);

Samuel Ogaba (Mage) in a park
OG Mage Samuel Ogaba

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. Like I said, I’m a Software Engineer. I’d rather be living the baby boy life and collecting royalties from the things I’ve created but the universe is delaying my application for that. 😒
Honestly, I’d rather be an artist, in all forms I’m capable of. But Software pays the bills so who am I to complain.

Q. What is the best thing about what you do?

A. Best thing about Software is how it creates solutions to individual and business needs. I believe everyone has received some form of value from software. Being able to read this write-up online is an example.

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Q. What kind of people do you allow into your circle?

A. You’d find that the people in my very small circle are like-minds with positive energy who are always willing to support and uplift each other. My friends are family.

Q. What do you appreciate about yourself and what would you like to change?

A. The thing I appreciate most about myself is my resilience, persistence, and positive attitude towards life in general. I amaze myself sometimes. I also appreciate the fact that I’m intellectually endowed. ☺️😎.

Q. Do you think we have a greater purpose or are we just waiting for our turn to die?

A. I can’t say for certain, but while I’m alive I intend to live life to the fullest and make sure that my kids have a better life than I do.

Q. If money was not relevant, what would you do all day?

A. Travel. Make music. Create Art. Find new food recipes to attempt. And play games 🤓

Q.What’s your idea of real success and how can it be achieved?

A. I don’t think I have my own “idea” of success per se. But if I set out to do something, and I accomplish that thing, that is success. I don’t need to succeed on a grand scale to be successful, I think. But that’s just my take. One thing is, I definitely don’t directly associate money with success unless what you set out to do, is make money. I think money is a side effect of the things we do. So I focus on making impact and creating value and that creates wealth, I think. So, in this rambling of mine, I’d say, my “idea” of success would be how much positive impact I’m able to make, while I’m here and when I’m gone.

Q. What’s your biggest complaint about the country?

A. The irresponsibility of our leaders. There are more detailed problems in the country, but I believe our leaders are major enablers of our problems while at the same time, not being subject to it. The country is starting to choke the people and we continuously have to learn to adapt to inconveniences until that’s all we know.

Mage at an outdoor event

I don’t need to succeed on a grand scale to be successful, I think. But that’s just my take. One thing is, I definitely don’t directly associate money with success unless what you set out to do, is make money…So I focus on making impact and creating value and that creates wealth, I think.

Samuel Ogaba (OG Mage) on Thursday Talk Series

Q. If like a movie your life up to this point is played for you to watch, describe how you’d feel about it?

A. Make no mistake, it WILL be a cringe fest 😬… I don’t think I want to re-watch myself make all those bad decisions, relationships and corniness 😂. But, It’ll definitely make a killer move for everybody else. Maybe I’ll write an autobiography one day. For anyone who’s interested in finding out more about my boring self, look up @ogmageofficial on IG, and @ogmageofficial on twitter 👀 (yes, twitter 😎).


Thank you Mage for the interview, it’s my pleasure to have you here and good luck with creating. For everyone reading this, arigatou and thank you. Have a terrific Thursday.

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Thursday Talk Series | How Bukkie Balances Life And Work

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If this is your first time here, I’m excited to welcome you to Thursday Talk Series. And to all the ancients, I hope the week hasn’t been too rough for you. Sometimes we take for granted how normal and boring life can be, until excitement comes our way and makes a complete mess of things. It’s the reason why a lot of times during the week I had to consciously talk myself into being productive. I said to myself, “If it’s important to you, you’ll do it.” Several instances surfaced where I deviated from that mantra and I was faced with unforeseen consequences. So yeah, boing is nice too. On the upside, I have a couple of new projects due and I’m pretty pumped about them. One of them is setting up an Instagram account for my blog | @iamrigozo (I’m swimming in shark-infested waters) and hopefully I’m up for the challenge 😂😂. I’ll keep y’all posted.

Alright, today we have Oluwabukola (Bukkie) with us and she’s the kind of woman you’d want on your team (I know this because we go way back, and the first time we met, we played tag team to get hostel rooms and we won). Fun fact: She walks with a spring in her step like she’s listening to music, and is about to do a pirouette. Bukky shows dedication to the people she cares about and the things that matter to her, and all of her quiet determination is wrapped up in an outer bubble of refinement and chic. I’m certain she’s the type to plan and execute a heist, while she’s playing host to a crowded room of dignitaries, policing people’s fashion, and sipping champagne (it’s the imagery for me). I’m over the moon that I got to interview her🥰🥰


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. My name is Oluwabukola Adebo and I’m from the southwestern part of Nigeria, Ekiti to be precise. I am currently working for a financial organization where I am largely into client relations and management.

Adebo Oluwabukola

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. Well, like I said earlier, I’m client-facing,  primarily involved in customer service, and my work relatively is meeting new people, understanding their issues, and proffering solutions; in general it’s relationship management at its core. Well, at the beginning of my career, I initially wanted to work in investment banking, I felt it went with the course I studied which was Economics but now it’s like every year I come up with something new to do. One thing that I’ve been interested in is fashion and décor. I love putting clothes together and creating beautiful spaces. Mostly I would like to be a successful businesswoman.

Q. What do you appreciate about yourself and what would you like to change?

A. Well, I’m grateful for the fact that I have come this far with work despite the many times I have quit in my head, and though each day seems like it’s tough, mentally I’ve grown tougher. Also, I’ve grown closer to my friends and built strong and long-lasting relationships over the years. I would like to break through my fear, because I feel like I could be so much more without it. Likewise, I’d like to stop procrastinating most of the things I have planned, and change it from DO IT LATER to DO IT NOW.

Q. If money was not relevant, what would you do all day?

A. I would most likely read a lot of books, travel and vlog about the places I’ve been to, probably write a bit and watch lots of sappy love movies. But honestly for me to live freely, I would need financial freedom, so at the end of the day money is still important.

Q. What do you feel you take for granted and how does it affect you?

A. Honestly, right now I cherish the things that I have but if I had to pick something I would say the new friends I’m getting close to. I’m terrible at returning missed calls so if you don’t know me well, you’ll take offense; some people couldn’t get past it. However, I’m making strides to correct that behavior.

Q. What have you accomplished so far that has made you proud?

A. Well, this is tough but I would say the fact that I’ve been able to create a work and life balance; being applauded at my Job for doing amazing work and at the same time getting awarded at the completion of my professional exams. It was unexpected but it felt good nonetheless. So, generally I’m grateful for growth on all sides.

Q. What two things do you think of the most each day and why?

A. Well, the thoughts that I have to vary based on the seasons in my life. Currently, it would be the, “What am I going to the next,” if I take away all the financial pursuit and seriousness from life, primarily because I want to be free, not necessarily unemployed, but not bound to the policies of office culture. Also, I like to think of the clothes I’m supposed to wear the next day, I’m usually torn between turning up in all black or doing something colorful.

Q. What’s your idea of real success and how can it be achieved?

A. For me, real success hits when you have self-fulfillment. It doesn’t mean you have to be super wealthy or own the most houses, but if you’re genuinely happy, peaceful, and comfortable doing what matters to you, surrounded by people you love and who love you, it makes a lot of difference. I don’t think there’s a strict rule to achieving success, there are some definite things one should do like being intentional, disciplined etc, but at the end of the day what pattern works best for you is what you subscribe to.

Q. What’s the one thing you think that should be taught in school about choosing a career that isn’t?

A. I would say financial management, not necessarily at its core but the art of being an entrepreneur should be emphasized. Most schools teach children how to work for people and not for themselves. I think it’s more important that kids are sensitized from a young age that they can be whoever they want to be, that are there are no limits to success. In addition, extracurricular activities should be promoted, kids should be allowed to express themselves.

I don’t think there’s a strict rule to achieving success, there are some definite things one should do like being intentional, disciplined etc, but at the end of the day what pattern works best for you is what you subscribe to.

Oluwabukola Adebo on Thursday Talk Series

Q. What is that thing that you see as an obstacle which can stop you from having success?

A. Well erhm, I would say I’m my biggest motivation but I think some personality traits hold me back, I’m a very reserved person and with the way the world is moving, people who speak up are more recognized, so I need to break through that barrier of being timid and be more outspoken.


Thank you so much Bukkie for the interview and know that I’m rooting for you (we all are, right guys?) I’m also grateful to everyone for being here. Hope you have a brilliant Thursday.

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Thursday Talk Series |On Debby Sews Happiness

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The holidays is over, and I spent my time working…sadly. Well, the past week has got me questioning the concept behind, ‘hard work’. According to Oxford dictionary, it means |a great deal of effort or endurance| hard |done with a great deal of force or strength| work |activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result|. Haba! Clearly both words mean the same thing and yet they are placed side by side (must have been done by a sociopath). Here’s my own definition of hard work |slaving away at a thing with the hopes that the reward will be great, except it does not always turn out the way one expects|. Keep this in mind if you hear the word when next you apply for a job or project, so that you’ll know what you are signing up for. Sociopaths will get what I’m saying.

I’m excited to introduce Deborah on today’s Thursday Talk Series. Ours was a peculiar meeting…you know how soft light firsts saturates the sky to herald the coming of dawn, and when finally the sun comes out it feels new and mesmerizing…it was like that. And if there ever was a smile that could be infectious, Debby’s smile would go viral. It’s not common to meet people who have found a way to tap into that elusive well of happiness and yet she readily let’s you take part in her cache of happy. Really giddy to have Debby here (she wrote down her answers in a book and it took her weeks to finish it and she has been anxiously waiting for today😂❤️)


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. I am Adeyanju Deborah, a graduate of Bingham University, Department of Anatomy. I am a very playful person and always happy. Lol. My favourite colour is white (cause it represents a fresh start for me) Think of a plain white paper, a white canva, a white fabric; they all represent a fresh start, or a new beginning. I love to travel, listen to music and sew, which brings me to what I do. I SEW – I am a tailor. I sew for ladies only (sorry guys, you guys hardly sew clothes biko). Actually, I do a lot of things, but I majorly sew.

Deborah Adeyanju

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. Let me start by saying that sewing is not a job for me, cause a job sounds…I don’t even know 😂🤷‍♀️. But for me, sewing is like therapy, my getaway, and it makes me happy. How did I even start sewing? I went to a fabric shop with my mum, and I was mesmerized by the number of fabrics I saw there. Looking at the different colours and design, all I could envision was various designs and styles of dresses, lol. I told my mum immediately that I wanted to learn to sew. And when we went to drop the fabrics she bought at her tailor’s place, she dropped me together with them😂. Would I rather do something else? Is there something out there that would give me so much joy, something I would think of wherever I am, something that gives me that getaway feeling, or something that leaves me feeling like a genius? If there is, please count me in. Like I said earlier, there are a lot of things I can do; I bake, I make snacks, I make small chops (the best you’ll ever eat 😉), I can make wigs and beads (not very well though🥴), I tie gele. But all of these cannot equate to sewing for me.

Q. What have you accomplished so far that has made you proud?

A. A lot of things come to mind, but I would summarize them by saying, whatever I do and do well always makes me happy. The day I cook a tasty meal, or I sew a dress that fits perfectly, or the day I give an advice and everything turns out the way I said it, I definitely would feel proud of myself. The truth is many times we wait for something big, a great accomplishment, before we pat ourselves on the back and say, ‘Well done baby girl,’ but I believe that whatever we can achieve, whether big or small, it is enough reason to be proud of ourselves. That being said, I’m proud of myself for this interview sef. 😅

Q. What do you feel you take for granted and how does it affect you?

A. For a very long time, I didn’t know or I didn’t understand the platitude that ‘life is special’, until recently. I took life, sound health, good food, going out and coming back for granted. The Bible says, God has given to us all that pertains to life and Godliness. I took all of that for granted. But I have come to realize that today we are here and tomorrow we are gone, so whatever needs to be done, should be done immediately. Most of the times, it might not be that I take it for granted, let’s just say I expect it to always happen as normal, but I have come to a realisation and I can now say it is a privilege. That’s why whatever opportunity I have now, I seize it and make the best of it.

Q. What makes your work stand out from others?

A. Very simple, excellence. Isaiah 60:15 is my motto. It says I shall be eternal excellence, so yeah, excellence. I love a work done with excellence.

Q. What do you appreciate about yourself and what would you like to change?

A. I appreciate my mind the most. My mind is an interesting machine that never stops running even when I’m asleep. I have the best play in my mind, the most interesting, puzzling, mind boggling thoughts, the best advices, best ideas, best of everything in my mind (and no, this is not pride, this is self-appreciation). Talking about what I’d like to change in my body, I find that the list is endless, lol, but then there’s nothing I can do about them, at least not yet, so I’ve learnt to accept all my flaws and love them all.

Q. What do you feel is the difference between living and existing?

A. Very interesting question. Lol. To live means to be alive. How do you know that you are alive? What makes you feel alive? What makes you feel like you? Whatever those things are, do it and live it. That’s what it means to ‘live’. And funny enough, whatever these things are or this thing is, it would always fetch you money, or impact lives, and even leave a legacy behind. But you see ‘existing’, it is the direct opposite of all I’ve said. To exist means you are living but not making any impact, you are just there. Your presence changes nothing. You add no meaning neither do you subtract any from life. You are just present and your presence is not useful (that sounded really harsh) lol. Anyways, that’s existing.

Q. What’s the one thing you think that should be taught in school about choosing a career that isn’t?

A. I won’t say one thing, I would say many things but let’s just pick some right now. I’d use myself as an example; what I wish I knew about choosing a career in school:

  1. A career doesn’t have to be a white-collar job.
  2. Build a career in something you are passionate about, something you would love to wake up every morning to do.
  3. Don’t stress if you haven’t figured it out right now, give it time, you will eventually.
  4. Nobody is a failure; we are all just different and gifted in different aspects.

Q. What two things do you think of the most each day and why?

A. One, my future and two, sewing. I want a future better than my present, of course I want things to be better. I day dream about this always. I’m not worried about my future; I only remind myself to keep going. Truth is, I’m even excited at the thoughts of how my future would be. About my sewing, I think of what I’m working on at present, how to sew it, what ways to achieve it, what materials I would need to sew it and things like that.

“I definitely would feel proud of myself. The truth is many times we wait for something big, a great accomplishment, before we pat ourselves on the back and say, ‘Well done baby girl,’ …whether big or small, it is enough reason to be proud of ourselves.”

Deborah Adeyanju on Thursday Talk Series

Q. If you could, what’s the one thing you’d change about the world?

A. If there’s anything I would change about the world, it would be to transform the chaos and troubles and heartbreaks and pain and tears, to peace. I’d trade all of that for peace. Interestingly, Christ has given it (peace) to us already, all we have to do is to accept it and I wish everyone would. I would really love a world of peace, love, humanity, selflessness, happiness, and joy. I don’t know if that’s me asking for too much, because God tried it once and the devil hijacked it. Lol.


Thank you so much Debby for the interview, it was a pleasure (as always). And thank you everybody for reading. Have a Thursday to remember. Bye!

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