Thursday Talk Series | Oluebube Ogoke is an Unapologetic Apologist, Loves Her Job, and A Good Book

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When a person I just met and was getting to know asked me, “Who are you?” I was taken aback by the question for a second. I quickly recovered and told him my name because that was the answer I could come up with. His reply was something like this, “That’s not who you are. Do you know that there are other people out there that have the same name as you do? So, your name can’t be who you are, because it’s just a name.” In my head, I was like, “Eskise me brah! What do you mean? Okay, maybe, I didn’t answer your question, but my name is a part of who I am, at least give credit to that.” Sigh. Well, if you ask me what has been on my mind, I’ll tell you that I’m concerned about the woman that I am. I couldn’t answer the question truly because I had no answer. It’s funny that uncertainties about myself pop up unexpectedly. I am conflicted about the choices that I’ve made, experience fears when I think of starting something new, and just find myself stuck in a whirlpool of what-ifs. There are times that I stand as the champion of my story and other times I play the villain. Why else will there be a constant war within me about who I am? Who else feels this way? Let me know in the comments.

Today, I’m so excited to introduce our guest, Ogoke Oluebube – no wait, before you say I am always excited, for real I’m over the moon that I got to interview her. Not to sound like a tv commercial, but you know that I’m all about first meetings. Well, meeting Ebube was one of the highlights of this year. Okay, storytime. It was a beautiful day and I was excited about working with an NGO, Led Initiative, on the launch of a library for their latest project (Lead 2 Read). So, this amazing group of people had volunteered to make a library for a Boy’s Correctional Home. After many weeks of designing, decorating the place, and asking people for supplies, the library was ready. I was the photographer covering the launch and it was a first for me (I will share the pictures). Little did I know that the day would hold more firsts. I walked into one of the rooms and Ebube had a spread of books on the table. I only had eyes for the books because they were new and shiny. While I was taking pictures of the book, she started talking about how she purchased them, and how many bookstores she visited. Maybe I forgot the books and started paying attention to her. A few minutes later we had introduced ourselves and were both reading nursery rhymes to each other, and laughing so hard at our slip-ups. The best part, it felt natural to be that way with her. Now, that’s something I won’t ever forget in a long time. Because of this interview, I’ve gotten to know Ebube a little more and I still have stars in my eyes (even though it took her forever to do the interview. Note to everyone else, don’t behave like Ebube).

Q. Can You Introduce Yourself?

A. I am Ogoke Oluebube Chinazo. I am an uptight recovering Perfectionist, learning to loosen up my uptight personality. I’m currently exploring life’s hardest questions by trying to view the world from God’s perspective (not quite an easy task). At sunrise I am a Business Lawyer (for Startups and SMEs), at sunset, I am an aspiring Novelist, Poet and, an Apologetic obsessed with the Historical, Literary, and Creative Arts. On a good day, the perfectionist in me expects a certain standard of morality and uprightness in the conduct of everyone, but the explorer in me just wants to fit in and get to know people for who they are.

Ogoke Oluebube Chinazo looks fierce in a portrait.
Ogoke Oluebube Chinazo

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

I have an obsession with seeing small businesses and startups grow from inception to a multinational (yet to see that) – hence the passion for my job in proffering business solutions to startups and SMEs. I position them to take advantage of the legal and financial structures put in place to encourage the growth of SMEs and startups. While my job as a Creative Writer, Poet, and Apologist, is more like a ministry than a job. If I am to do something else, I would love to be a Freelance Journalist and would love to travel to the ends of the world to report stories unheard of or that no one is reporting.

Q. What’s your idea of real success?

A. I measure success by how well my actions and words impact people, businesses, communities, and states. Even if it’s only one person.

Q. When do you feel the most confident about your work?

A. It speaks for itself. I am diligent and put my heart into my work. I provide my clients with everything that they want, therefore the result speaks for itself.

Q. What have you accomplished so far that made you so proud?

A. Writing and publishing my short stories and entrepreneurial articles.

Q. Can you describe who knows you best?

A. I can’t think of anyone at the moment. But would love to think that my future husband would know me best (whoever he is lol)

Q. What was the last book you read and what can you say about it?

A. I am currently in between books at the moment so can’t say. Nevertheless, I can recommend one of my favorites reads this year (as I have read quite a lot), lol. His Only Wife’ by Peace Adzo Media, is a perfect read for every young woman that have expectations about love and marriage. The book made me realize that sometimes love is about letting the person go.

Ogoke Oluebube Chinazo sitting crossed leg in a prayer pose.
Ogoke Oluebube Chinazo

Q. What pet peeve would you make illegal if you could and why?

A. Bureaucracy in civil service is a poor excuse for internal control and creating jobs in the civil service.

Q. What do you appreciate about yourself and what would you like to change?

A. I appreciate my mind and its thirst for knowledge. I would love to change my lazy and nonchalant attitude to opportunities I deem less important. I mean that I no longer want to undermine the little opportunities that I get – “Don’t try to eat the big size of cake when you have not learned how to swallow the small size.

Ogoke Oluebube Chinazo is showing a book that she likes.

I have an obsession with seeing small businesses and startups grow from inception to a multinational (yet to see that) – hence the passion for my job in proffering business solutions to startups and SMEs, by positioning them to take advantage of the legal and financial structures put in place to encourage the growth of SMEs and startups. While my job as a Creative Writer, Poet, and Apologist, is more like a ministry than a job.

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Q. If you could, what’s the one thing you do change about the world?

A. Let every human harness his/her inherent ability to reason rationally. I believe that we do not reason as we should and prefer to follow trends. We set aside rational thinking and let others think for us instead. In my experience, those that reason, stand out.


Thank you so much Ebube for the interview and for the book that you recommended (your reminder to send the book to me). I wish you all the best with your job and look forward to reading your publications. To everyone that stuck to the end, thank you. I wish y’all a terrific Thursday.

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Thursday Talk Series |Chike Ibekwe Talks About All The Things He Likes

Hello folks. Been a minute. December is here. Happy new month! Feliz Navidad! Yeah, I’m crazy about this season. I’ll be putting a wallpaper below, everything cute, cat and Christmas. Many more more to come.

So the other day my brother asked me, “How do you stop yourself from getting angry?” To tell the truth, I haven’t been asked that question before, so it took me a couple of seconds to answer. Maybe, just maybe, I would like to believe that I can control my anger to a degree. But…there have been instances when I threw my hands up, and just unleashed the dragon. Still, I will share in my next post the answer I gave him on how I manage my anger and why it works for me. Until then, have you ever paid attention to how you deal with anger? Give it some thought and leave your comments below.

In today’s interview, I’ll like to introduce Chike. He’s a longtime friend, and like his famous namesake, he’s the boo of the booless. Several long years have passed since I first met him, and he has never let me forget that I snubbed him when he approached me. In my defense, I was engrossed in a book and he was asking me one yeye question.😂 Also, let it be known that he was the first to be interviewed in person. I’ll also drop a snippet of the audio interview below.

Yes! This is a huge one for me and it feels right to come back with it. Chike always has a smile to give, and being around him eases your stress away. An attentive tutor, musician, photographer, and creative genius.


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. Hi, my name is Chike Ibekwe. Some people call me Chikonene but I have given myself Damian Cole. People have asked me how I got the name, well, I saw it online and thought to myself, “This name is fine,” and now I’m Damian Cole Chike (DCC angles). I’m a photographer in the making. and like I always say, even if I work for ten years as a photographer for the likes of Buhari and Queen Elizabeth, I’ll still be a photographer in the making. Another thing I do is teach (home lessons) because I’m smart you know. I teach both old and young. I’m funny and I can also sing and drum (I do paid gigs).

Chike Ibekwe Talks About The Things He Likes on Thursday Talk Series

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. Like I mentioned earlier, I do not do just one thing in particular. I can wake up and choose to take pictures of the bridge and if the image turns out good, I’ll be like wow, awesome. Also, when the students I tutor are showing signs of improvement, it makes me happy. I feel confident in the work that I do because I know that I can perform well. The same goes for when I sing or play the drums. I derive immense satisfaction from the things I do and for now, I don’t think I’d rather do something else.

Q. When have you felt like giving up?

A. I work with a photographer friend of mine. However, I’m still learning and so my hands are not steady yet. There was one time we had a proposal scheduled here in Lagos, but my friend had to be in Abuja. He told me that I would have to cover the proposal all by myself. And the proposal wasn’t in a fancy bright place. If it was, I could expect that every shot I would take would look great because of the environment. Instead, it was planned at a cinema, and you know poor lighting. I wanted to tell my friend, “I can’t do it, I don’t think this is for me.” I wasn’t confident. Although I eventually did it, and it turned out well, that was one of the times I ever felt anxious and wanted to give up. So, whenever I find myself in a situation, whether singing or tutoring, and I’m faced with what seems like a mad challenge, I want to run away – those are the times I felt like giving up – but I still do it.

Q. If money was not relevant, what would you do all day?

A. If money was irrelevant and I have everything that I wanted, I would hang out with my friends. There’ll be food and drinks, and even a swimming pool. We’ll grab a keyboard, grab drums or whatever instrument we find, and spend the time singing and worshiping. We’ll talk, laugh, get in each other’s faces, and just have fun. I like having people around.

Q. When do you feel the most confident about your work?

A. When I don’t have to assert myself or do a lot of physical work but trust in my skill and mental ability to do a good job, that’s the time I’m most confident about my work. It was the case at the last party we covered where I was shooting effortlessly. Somebody walked up to me and said she has been watching me and was wondering if I was shooting or just chilling. I showed her the images I took and she was wowed by them. Even when I teach because in the end it can be left or right. Whenever my effort is reflected in their results I feel confident.

Chike Ibekwe Talks About The Things He Likes on Thursday Talk Series

Q. What two things do you think of the most each day and why?

A. My hairline. Gaddem! My hairline. Every time. Even today I saw it and I was wondering if it was going inside or coming out. To think that five years ago it looked like this. Well, they did not give birth to me with a front hairline. The second one well there are a lot but mostly my virginity. I’m just trying to be funny because I know there are other things that I think about. But I think about this like, I’m 27, guy! I can sit down and just start thinking about it. I mean it’s not like I have never been close to a woman, I have. And I’ve been at the stage when it is about to happen, but I run. I run. I think about it every time.

Q. What kind of people do you allow into your circle?

A. I’m almost like a sanguine. We that we’re sanguine we allow everybody inside. Just anybody as long as you have good vibes. I don’t like people that are full of themselves or pretentious. I like humble people – that are down to earth. I also don’t care for people who are quick to cast blame instead of looking for the way forward. So that’s how I filter people, if not I allow everybody in.

Q. Do you think we have a greater purpose or are we just waiting for our turn to die?

A. This is the third thing I think about all the time. I mean I see good people die all around me of natural death, I see the lives of Christians and innocent people wasted by the Boko Haram. I’ve heard people say that God does not make the attempt to help people out and I sit down to contemplate if this is true. Are we here just to mark time and die. I think if God knows the end from the beginning what is the whole point of creating the world? Why let us have to choose between heaven and hell? Because it’s hard. Living is very hard. I still believe in God and I’m a Christian but I question existence all the time.

Q. What is that thing that you see as an obstacle which can stop you from having success?

A. Women. Some men lie to themselves and say that women are not an issue for them but I know myself. I’m at the point where I’m sure that success is coming and I’m sure that if I don’t have a woman in my life like a girlfriend or wife then, hehe. I have an affinity for females and even if I don’t approach them, they’ll approach me. It’s the way I am. That connection with ladies will cause something to happen. I’ll be like Samson, I’ll have to run away from all the Delilahs. Also, my mind. Because I strongly believe in myself. If I’m eating corn on the street and people are looking at me, I’ll continue eating the corn because my mind says I shouldn’t care. But once I begin to care about it then it becomes a problem. So my mind and women.

Chike Ibekwe Talks About The Things He Likes on Thursday Talk Series

I derive immense satisfaction from the things I do and for now, I don’t think I’d rather do something else…I like humble people – that are down to earth. I also don’t care for people who are quick to cast blame instead of looking for the way forward. So that’s how I filter people, if not I allow everybody in.

Chile Ibekwe on Thursday Talk Series

Q. What’s the one thing you think that should be taught in school about choosing a career that isn’t?

A. Money and Passion. You are teaching a person mathematics and the person has a talent for horse riding, I mean how do you take that. The educational system is too rigid and boxed up. Teaching mathematics with the knowledge that the students who are not on the same level intellectually and yet you call the person who does not pass a failure. It’s like bringing a fish to compete in a horse race. From an early age, children should be groomed based on their passion, just like the way athletes in foreign countries train. In my case, I played drums from an early age and I can play the drum anywhere. I started photography at the age of 25. It would have to be around 40 years before I master photography. Also, people should be educated about money. How to make fortune from their passion is very important. Teaching is something I love to do even if you won’t pay me but now I get paid doing what I love and that is amazing.


Yo! This was so much fun😂 Trust me that there’s so much from the audio interview that I left out because what lol. Thank you so much, Chike for doing this to me. Can’t wait to work on another project with you❤️

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Guys, like I said you can listen to a snippet of the audio interview. Apologies for the background noises, I’m not yet good at cleaning things up). You can also get the triple combo wallpaper – cute, cat, and Christmas ☺️🐱🎄

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Thursday Talk Series | Augustine Ojeh Seeks Clarity of Purpose

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Let’s play a game. Not Squid Game guys (I haven’t watched the movie but a lot of you are very loud about it). This game is simple and nonfatal, please. I want you to read the sentence below, and as you do so count the number of Fs that you find.

Awesome. How many Fs did you find? 3, 4, 5, or 6? Click here to see the answer and find out whether you are smart or not. Did you get the right answer? 😁😏

Moving on. Today, I’ll be introducing Augustine Ojeh. Let me confess. I have reason to believe that he gets high from giving expression and meaning to the world around him with words. Having recently made his acquaintance, I have no informed impression of his person. However, I can tell you that I deduced he’s a craftsman who has a sizzling relationship with words by stalking his Instagram page. Yes, that’s right! I did that. I was curious you see, and best believe that now I want to know even more about him.😂 I’m aware that he’s an earnest coach – ready to teach and also learn. He’s a book-lover, has no pet that I know of, is a certified night owl, and is an amazing writer and editor.


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. Augustine Ojeh here. Somewhere deep down, I reaffirm myself to be a genius but, in reality, I’m just another nobody, scratching his way upwards and seeking clarity of purpose. In my quest for clarity, I read books. I wouldn’t say it’s been a lot of books but enough to heighten my curiosity and desire to teach. What better way to learn than to teach? So, I’m a writer, editor, and writing coach. I write about business growth, global and workplace sustainability, diversity (gender, racial, and cultural), economics, and a pinch of psychology (for the love of it). However, I’m a questioner of illogical religious doctrines and the credulity of its believers. Some (including clergymen) have called me an Atheist but I’ll excuse their assertions to their purportedly ill understandings of Atheism.

Augustine Ojeh at his favorite space that he calls Saturn
Augustine Ojeh

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. I wouldn’t say that I have a job. Just as footballers never called playing soccer a job, writing has never been a job to me. At least, I’ve never seen it that way and probably never will. I’d do something else if it has a negative opportunity cost, like starting and building a business which I’m already doing (won’t say more than that). However, I doubt if any of that would stop me from writing.

Q. What’s your idea of real success and how can it be achieved?

A. The “real” seems weird. Success is never faked. And, in my opinion, there’s no rigid formula to achieving it. I have several ideas of success, depending on what area of my life is under the magnifying lenses. In marriage, parenting, career, mental development, and all others, the ideas of success change. The methods to achieving each also vary. In marriage and mental development, for instance, stern principles are important while in parenting and career, flexibility and amenability to change are virtues.

Q. What is your morning routine like?

A. a. Wake up by 9:00 AM. That alarm is annoying and the funny thing is that the 9 am alarm description reads, “OJEH, YOU’VE GOT 1,440 MINUTES TODAY. NOW, GET IN THE TOILET, YOU PISS OF SHIT!”

b. Sit on the toilet seat for 30 minutes (maybe drop some poops if there’s any coming. Eewww! But it does feel good.)

c. Bath right after.

d. Brew some coffee in the kitchen.

e. Read three important newsletters [from the New York Times (US), The Economist (UK), and Punch (NG)] while I wait for coffee.

f. Read and respond to emails.

g. Update my to-dos for the day.

Q. What two things do you think of the most each day and why?

A. I’m not sure there are any two particular things that I think about each day. However, my mind has been occupied by the book project that I’m working on recently. And why does that occupy my mind? Of course, you know. I think the second thing that fills my head is the business that I’m creating (but I won’t say more). It’s on my mind often because it should be. Nevertheless, I’ve got my family sitting pretty at the corner of my mind. They never leave there.

Q. How do you manage to deal with stress as you work?

A. I use the gym when the spirit leads but mostly in the evenings. I take long walks to clear my head also. And I play snooker as often as I can. It’s an opportunity to meet new faces and share a good laugh. It does help deal with the stress, no doubt. Chess also comes in handy when I’m a bit unhappy or frustrated.

Q. What do you feel is the difference between living and existing?

A. The difference is our perception of time. For those existing, time travels through them. So, they often sit pretty as time rides along. Living puts you in a race against time. It gives essence to time. It’s the reason 24 hours is too short for one day. If only it could be 28. Pfffft! But a jolly race against time without prizes to pick at random stops is a spokeless wheel.

Augustine Ojeh

Q. What was the last book you read and what can you say about it?

A. Perfectly Confident by Don A. Moore (Ph.D.). I think Professor Moore does have a lot to say about the dangers of blind optimism and unbacked confidence. I’d say the book is excellently written and laced with relatable research, accurate accounts of events, and exciting exercises to help you stay on track.

Q. Do you think we have a greater purpose or are we just waiting for our turn to die?

A. I think we are on a lap to create our heaven or hell. When this lap is over, we would return to the life that we created, clueless about how and when we created them. So, yes, we do have a purpose albeit its greatness is relative.

I wouldn’t say that I have a job. Just as footballers never called playing soccer a job, writing has never been a job to me. At least, I’ve never seen it that way and probably never will. I’d do something else if it has a negative opportunity cost, like starting and building a business which I’m already doing (won’t say more than that). However, I doubt if any of that would stop me from writing.

Augustine Ojeh on Thursday Talk Series

Q. What is that thing that you see as an obstacle that can stop you from having success?

A. Death.


Thank you very much for the interview, Augustine. I’m really glad to have met you and I look forward to all the amazing things you are set to do. For everyone still reading, thank you for being here. Wish you a spectacular Thursday.

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Thursday Talk Series on Tobe’s Life and Work As a Photographer

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I saw a Bollywood movie yesterday and as always their storyline is intriguing, and the acting was superb and hilarious. The name is A Magical Love Story, and it’s about love, family, fate, curses, deceit, and magic. We know real-life is not the same as a screenplay but we do all we can each day to find happiness. There is no substitute for trying again and again. Sometimes life is to be enjoyed and other times it picks you up, does a little spin, and sets you down. You can be sure that it will take a while before you will be able to find your balance – you will eventually find it. Let have this in mind, “Nature has given us all the pieces required to achieve exceptional wellness and health, but has left it to us to put these pieces together.”—Diane McLaren. Whether you believe that love/life is magical, it’s up to you to write your own story.

Today I’m introducing Tobe and I’ve found him to be one of those people (rare) who are completely honest with themselves. This makes him able to interpret his feelings without trying to convince himself otherwise. He pays attention to details, especially in his work, and always tries to find a balance between business and personal life – to the best of his ability. In his relationship with people, he is understanding and reliable, makes amazing connections (he always knows a guy). I can’t remember our first meeting but we’ve had several easy and open-minded conversations. That said, he’s the first to start conversations with people – he still hasn’t realized that he has an amazing gift of relating with people – even strangers. He is a goal-getter and an exceptional manager, and when it comes to having fun he gets into the mood 100%.

Trivia on Tobe

- A foodie

- Loves to dance

- An Arsenal fan

Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. My name is Tobenna Afamefuna Nnamdi Amechi. Yes, I do not have an English name and for a while, I didn’t like it. However, today I am proud of my Igbo names because each of them has specific meanings which are relevant to life and living. I am a photographer and I run a photography business in Lagos, Nigeria.

Tobenna Amechi

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

I started the business because it was a skill I had and I needed to make money while waiting to get full-time employment. I wasn’t also so bombed with the idea of working for someone except for having the idea of ‘corporate work’ at the time and being responsible. Over time, the reasons for being in business have grown from money-making and now emotional and core business principles. At some point, I just wanted to make money, other times I just wanted to be happy. There was a period it was powered by how people felt when they got served by my business. Now all of those things have faded, and I am more interested in building a business that solves clients’ problems while meeting the needs of the individuals offering the service. There are days in the cause of running this business that I felt I would rather be doing an actual 9-5, step out every day and do actual work, and then come back. I have gone ahead to even apply for jobs on some days. In the end, I am still here going through the motions and believing. I am a corporate guy. I have an affinity for emails, suits, ties, warm regards, etc. It excites me, and I sincerely want to experience it, if I get the opportunity, either by building it into my own business or getting that actual job and maybe just doing it for 6 months. For me, the travails of being a business owner are always looming. There are busy days, lazy days, and days I question my existence and relevance to both myself and the universe. I like activity – purposeful activity – hence I feel very uncomfortable when I am not doing anything. Why do I currently do what I do? I am not sure I know anymore. I believe many entrepreneurs have gone through this phase too. However, I am at the point where I want to prove my relevance to myself. I want to be sure I am not just existing, and inconsequential to the happenings of life.

Q. What two things do you think of the most each day and why?

  • Growth – I am really scared of not measuring up to my mates, of poverty and stagnant.
  • Relevance – I want to make a mark in peoples lives I don’t want to have just existed, I want to have touched lives so when I die in the next 80 years, people can have good testimonies about me.
  • Money – to make more and never lack while giving to people in need.
  • Love – I feel alone most times, I need a girlfriend in my life.
  • Sex – How I am not having it and wish to get married quickly so I can indulge without guilt
  • Family – current and future.
  • Heaven – How I try not to do the many different things I could be doing that seem normal but will cost me eternity, I can’t go to hell Biko.

Q. What is the best thing about what you do?

A. Sincerely, the best thing about it right now is delivering to the clients’ satisfaction and the consequent balance that comes. Of course, making great images satisfy me, and this was the best thing at some point but not now making great images also means the client would be satisfied.

Q. What do you appreciate about yourself and what would you like to change?

A. I appreciate my soft nature which makes me want to do good for people all the time. I also would like to change it, to be a little more strong-willed, not caring what people will say and a lot of other things.

Q. What have you accomplished so far that has made you proud?

A. A little while ago, I was in a virtual meeting with my staff. I looked at my computer screen and saw their names registered and I realized how blessed I was to have two individuals on my team. I am proud to have been able to build Wise Visuals by God’s grace from a one-person team to where it is now. I am proud and grateful for it.

Q. What was the last book you read and what can you say about it?

A. Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. There is no successful person who didn’t have opportunities handed to them, in most cases they didn’t realize they were opportunities that would make them world-famous. However, they still made the best out of the opportunities that were presented to them, putting in the time and work needed to be great at what they did, clocking their 10,000 hours of work to be excellent. In light of this, I figure that everyone is presented with a series of opportunities in their lifetime, we are tasked to view each season as an opportunity and make the best of it. Achieving expertise at something requires you to have put in much time work approximately 10,000 hours, which the successful people we know put in both voluntarily and involuntarily as a result of the opportunities they were presented with. If this is true which does make sense, then intentional practice over time helps the mastery of and success at one’s craft.

Q. What do you feel is the difference between living and existing?

A. The major difference is impact and self-satisfaction. When you live, you affect lives, small and big and you are happy and self-satisfied doing that.

Over time, the reasons for being in business have grown from money-making and now emotional and core business principles. At some point, I just wanted to make money, other times I just wanted to be happy. There was a period it was powered by how people felt when they got served by my business. Now all of those things have faded, and I am more interested in building a business that solves clients’ problems while meeting the needs of the individuals offering the service

Amechi Tobenna on Thursday Talk Series

Q. What is that thing that you see as an obstacle which can stop you from having success?

A. Inconsistency. I find that I can start things and most times I don’t know how to finish or sustain them. Knowing this is a challenge, has also posed an inhibition to start for me, because I don’t want to start and not finish.

Q. If like a movie your life up to this point is played for you to watch, describe how you’d feel about it?

A. I’d feel how I am feeling now, unsatisfied and some level of regret. Grateful for the wins and optimism and faith for a better ending.


Thank you so much Tobenna for the interview and I hope you find what gives you satisfaction. And thank you everyone for sticking around. Have a blissful Thursday.

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For what the elders see from their bottom
The child will not from the tree's top

I speak not of the wrinkled and the bony
For grey hair, missing teeth and bent frames
Are not always keys to wisdom’s stores

Though this may seem true
More times than the fetching bucket
Returns empty from the watering well

Ask them of life’s lesssons
They will tell you slowly
Ask them again and again
For the child forgets so soon

And our land overflows with mouths
Chewing kola and alligator pepper
But where did wisdom go
Did the children stop asking or
The old stopped answering



THE WONDERING | Uzzi Ologe
The Womdering - A poem by Uzzi Ologe

Uzzi Ologe🏆

Uzzi Ologe is a wannabe lots of things – poet, storyteller, critic, scholar and general writer of stuff… if only he gets around to actually writing (but God will help him). He loves banga soup and eba. When he is not thinking of writing, he is watching movies or daydreaming. He is also the most boring guy on earth.

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I have made minor mistakes that have had major consequences. Whenever it happened, I felt overwhelmed by self-pity and self-doubt. However, I’ve come to realize that I need to break out of that cycle. I know now that I’m able to do so by choosing to forgive myself. And to prevent mistakes, I will try to be aware of where I am and what I’m doing at all times. That way I would be more successful and productive.

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Thursday Talk Series| Idowu As A Living Oracle

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Holla! Have you listened to Ed Sheeran – Shivers? You should do – like right now – I don’t mean now, but after you’ve read today’s Thursday Talk Series you can skedaddle outta here and go listen to Eddie’s latest song if pop is your kind of jam. All week I had it on repeat. The first time I listened to the song I started dancing even though I’m a tragic dancer. I hope I’m never asked to dance to save my life because it would be my obituary. Yes, that bad. But Ed’s Shivers is that good.

Standing on non-existing protocols, I’d like to introduce Idowu Adeyemi, The Oracle (it’s a fact that I always hear a thunderous cheer anytime he’s introduced). If Orishás (traditional Yoruba spirits) walked the earth, it is safe to say that Idowu is an ancient spirit trapped in a human body, but still offering service to humankind. His personality shines through in all of his affairs, and the work that he puts into the things he’s passionate about places him above his peers (notice I didn’t say he puts passion into his work). He’s also one of the best people that I have been privileged to know. He’s a dreamer by nature, a lawyer by profession, and an Orator by might. I believe the world is waiting to know a man like Idowu, and soon they’ll get to meet him. When he’s not busy with legal matters, he reads (African literature is his favorite), cooks, listens to music, take short walks, and engages in lively discussions (from how to develop the reading culture of Young Africans to the which housemate was evicted on BBN).

Trivia about Idowu

He loved to watch Bollywood😂😂😭❤️

Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. My name is Idowu Olamilekan Adeyemi but my friends and fans like to call me “The Oracle.” Not that I truly believe that I’m one but it has a nice ring to it, so I stick to it. I am a Lawyer with my practice areas including Intellectual Property Law, Corporate and Commercial Practice, Legal drafting, Research and Writing. So, if you are ever in need of my services, don’t hesitate to reach out. I am also trying to get a Communication Consulting Company off the ground and I am optimistic it will turn out great pretty soon.

Idowu Adeyemi after Law School
Idowu Olamilekan Adeyemi

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. I have to say that I am not one of those privileged people who have the incredible gift of knowing what exactly they want to do with their lives from an early stage. I was a commercial student throughout my secondary school but then I stumbled on law when I was going to write my o’ levels exam and it felt like the right thing to do because it aligned with my natural abilities but then I got to the University and it felt like a total disaster. It took me another year after law school to fall in love with this profession. So, I practice law because I finally believe that this where I am meant to be and I am good at it and it does align with a major part of my personality not to mention the fact that money doesn’t hurt too. As far as doing something else goes, I won’t. I will rather complement my law practice with other creative endeavors that I am certain I have abilities for.

Q. When have you felt like giving up?

A. Good gracious! That has been too many times already. In fact, it use to be everyday. Being a person with disability and living in an unstructured society like Nigeria is a double jeopardy to say the least. And a specific instance of such frustration will be when a prospective employer hinted at my disability as the reason for not getting the job. This had happened more than once but this particular day, I went back home depressed and I was sure I was never going to try again. But after hunger waya my head for a couple of days, I needed no extra motivation. Lol. I figured if the society is not going to give me a space, I can either take it or create one for myself and that is what I have been doing since that time.

Idowu living in the moment at sunrise

Q. What two things do you think of the most each day and why?

A. I think about self and professional development. I want to be the best at whatever I do. My career and future mean a lot to me and I am always thinking about how many positive steps I have taken each day to get closer to it. I think about family too. A lot, but that is a story for another day. Lol.

Q. What have you accomplished so far that has made you proud?

A. Honestly, I have a lot of things to be grateful for. But what I am proud of the most is the fact that I am able to attain independence. My worst fear growing up use to be that I will forever be dependent as a person with disability. It hunted me so bad that I use to cry in my private space but today, e no too hard to drink small garri and groundnut daily. Lol.

The Oracle having a good time
Photo credit: Rigozo

Q. If money was not relevant, what would you do all day?

A. I will sit with peers and engage in interesting and intelligent conversations all day. I will sit with old people and listen to stories about the past and learn more about our various cultures and languages. I will spend more time trying to understand the dynamics and the diversity of humanity. I sure as hell will travel a lot and explore the world beyond my immediate reality and environment.

Q. What kind of people do you allow in your circle?

A. All kinds of people. Everyone is welcome, as long as you are kind, empathetic and you can show and appreciate love. Tribe, race, religion, class and other basis of discrimination do not apply in my relationships.

Q. Do you consider that people are basically good or bad?

A. I think we are both and I think we are more than that. Humanity is complex, it will be cheap oversimplification to say we are either just good or bad. The part of us that we exhibit however is dependent on various factors; like the part of us we have nurtured the most, socialization process, level of knowledge and exposure, how complex the dilemma we are presented with is at the point of making each decision and a lot more. We can only try to do the right thing but we have to admit that we will not always get it right and that’s okay.

Idowu ‘The Oracle’ in Ibadan

It took me another year after law school to fall in love with this profession. So, I practice law because I finally believe that this where I am meant to be and I am good at it and it does align with a major part of my personality not to mention the fact that money doesn’t hurt too. As far as doing something else goes, I won’t. I will rather compliment my law practice with other creative endeavors that I am certain I have abilities for.

Idowu Adeyemi, ‘The Oracle’ on Thursday Talk Series.

Q. What is your biggest complaint about this country?

A. It’s the lack of a system for me. You cannot single out a sector in Nigeria where things are working the way they should. Everyone just dey freestyle and living each day as it comes. It’s pathetic!

Q. What is the one thing you think that should be taught in school about choosing a career that isn’t?

A. Actually, for me, it’s two things. First, it’s okay to figure out your career path much later after school. It doesn’t mean you are a loser or irresponsible or dumb. It only means you are yet to find yourself and that can take a lot of time for some people and it’s absolutely alright. Just don’t give up on yourself. Whenever you wake up is your morning. All you need do, no matter how long it takes is ensure that you wake up. Second, do not underestimate the power of social capital. Great people in your circle are worth infinitely more than money. So, build relationships and don’t burn bridges. When you finally wake up, those people will be there to say good morning to you and help you get off to a beautiful day ahead.


Thank you so much, Idowu for the interview and I wish you all the best. Remember that your dreams are as great as you envision them to be and it’s only a matter of time. And to everyone still reading thank you so much. Also, you can like, comment and share. Have a lovely Thursday.

Below is a little something I wrote for Idowu a while back, hope you enjoy it.

The Oracle,

When they started calling you ‘The Oracle’ back in school, I teased you at every given opportunity. Well, that was my job description as your friend and sometimes tormentor. I tried my best to be at all of your competitions anyway. 

In a packed lecture hall, when it was your turn to speak, I could sink my teeth into the tension in the air. Maybe I didn’t hear all that you said, and that was the least reason why I was there anyway. The main reason was to watch people as they listened to you. 

To see a mass of bodies lean a little further, hold their breaths, and scream as one at the words you said, was euphoric. That you held sway over the emotions and the actions of people was in itself a form of power. And that was when I realized that you may not be a deity, but you were at those moments the most powerful person in the room. 

Dedicated to Idowu Adeyemi.

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Thursday Talk Series| Live and Love Your Life By Noah

Holla fellas. It feels good to be back this thursday. I’d give you a high five, but you know that’s not possible. Hope you’ve had an awesome week so far. My biggest takeaway this week about life: We can evade reality, but we cannot evade the consequences of evading reality – Ayn Rand.

I’m beyond excited to have Noah here. I thought this introduction would be my easiest yet but mehn I thought wrong. When I first met Noah years ago in Kaduna, it was the breezy, hello and goodbye kinda meeting. He was the boy next door…very cliché, or so I thought (wrong, again). He’d acknowledge my presence with a smile, a nod, or a few words sometimes. However, there were days when he was withdrawn, I felt like condensed air or a fly on the wall. Because he sings beautifully, I suspect a tune plays in his head that shuts out the world. “Yeah, whatever, I don’t care, ” but I did, a lot more than I cared to admit. Maybe I wore him down with my charming/annoying self, or maybe he and his folks took me on as a charity case (I was the new crazy Lagos girl), but things got better. I’ve gotten to know Noah and it has been precious. He is one of my book/music plugs; we have almost the same taste to my surprise (hooked me up with Tomi Adeyemi, Kevin Kwan, Laini Taylor, The Chainsmokers, Calum Scott, etc, and I shared my pancakes with him). He’s a yogi (the serious ones unlike me), and he grows all kinds of plants (he gave me my first lovely aloe vera bush, Catherina, and still helps me with her because I’m not a good plant mom). He’s diligent, dependable, has a wicked sense of humor (aka bad mouth), and can sing every song that Adele has released. Let’s meet Noah☺️


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. My name is Noah Yari. I am a consultant with an organization that mentors entrepreneurs.

Noah Yari in his traditional attire
Noah Yari


Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. I do it because I’ve discovered that Ihave a passion for helping people. I get to meet and interact with such beautiful souls and help them rewrite their stories. It’s very fulfilling work. I love what I do. I wouldn’t change it.


Q. What have you accomplished so far that has made you proud?

A. First of all, I don’t believe that you have to accomplish something grand to be proud of yourself. I would say my biggest accomplishment is overcoming depression, self-doubt and anxiety. I used to be quite a basket-case. LOL

Q. What do you appreciate about yourself and what would you like to CHANGE?

A. What I appreciate most about myself is my will power. I’ve realised that I am my only problem and I am the only solution .

Q. Would you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert and why?

A. I would describe myself as an introvert, mostly because everyone I know says so. I enjoy my own company but I also enjoy the company of others, especially when we are on the same altitude.

Q. If you win a million dollars, what would you do?

A. I’d buy my parents a new house. They deserve that much.

Q. I’ll What do you feel is the difference between living and existing?

A. I always answer this question with that old saying ‘the grass always looks greener on the other side’. I feel people who believe this are those who are just existing and waiting for life to happen to them. I believe that someone who is truly living won’t have the time to compare his ‘grass’ with others because they’ll be too busy watering theirs and making life happen. Don’t wait for life to happen to you, happen to life, and just enjoy the ride, that’s living.

Q. What was the last book you read and what can you say about it?

A. The Girl With The Louding Voice by Abi Daré. It’s a coming of age story about a poor girl with big dreams who refused to be a victim of her circumstances. What I love most about it is that it was written by a Nigerian and set in Nigeria. It was utterly refreshing.

I always answer this question with that old saying ‘the grass always looks greener on the other side’. I feel people who believe this are those who are just existing and waiting for life to happen to them… someone who is truly living won’t have the time to compare his ‘grass’ with others because they’ll be too busy watering theirs and making life happen. Don’t wait for life to happen to you, happen to life, and just enjoy the ride, that’s living.

Noah Yari on Thursday Talk Series

Q. Do you believe aliens exist, if yes, what are they like?

A. I believe aliens exist because the size of the universe is in comprehensively large. It can’t be just us. I don’t know what they’re like but if I were to guess, I’d say they’re not that different from us on the inside. By this I mean they have souls and can experience love, sorrow and pain. I believe they have brains too!

Q. What is that thing that you see as an obstacle which can stop you from having success?

A.The only thing that can stop me from achieving success is not a ‘thing’ really. It’s God. Only the Big Guy/Gal can stop me.


Thank you, Noah, for showing up and I didn’t even have to resort to threats😂 It’s a lazy Thursday guys and I could use a break. If you are still here, thank you so much for reading. Don’t forget to like, share and leave a comment.

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Thursday Talk Series On Lara of The Wildfire

Rigozo

Fam! Lately, my thoughts are so random, all over the place, and I accuse my mind of deliberately playing ping-pong just to mess with me. I decided to do a bit of self-reflection the other day, you know, ask myself tough questions like, ‘Is it that time of the month? Bank account gathering dust? Did I put on weight or did my jeans shrink? Valid questions. So, I got my answer but I didn’t like it one bit. Lo and behold, I’m suffering from an acute case of nostalgia. Sucks! Now that I have been diagnosed, I just want to find the cure and get well. But now my other self is looking at me and tutting because she says I can only feel better without my memories. I completely agree with her. I think selective amnesia is the way forward, except I can’t just keep the good memories and get rid of the bad. For the time being I’m stuck hauling my nostalgia around like some twisted trophy.

Moving on. Today I have Lara and I’m excited that she’s here as always. I’ve come to understand that people are a lot like mold, they can be found everywhere. However, quite a few of them stick around you and become something more. That’s why Lara of the Wildfire, as she prefers to be called, reminds me of music in all the years that I’ve known her. Sometimes Lara is like a concerto featuring an orchestra of strings, keys, and horns. Other times she’s a solo flute with dark haunting notes. Or a she’s a soft hum you’d have to strain very hard to listen to or else she’d slip away when you least expect, and all that will be left is a terrible ache. She’s like the kind of music that leaves you feeling more than you bargained for. Lara also loves stargazing, writes love letters to the moon, keeps a cat or two as her familiar, and crushes on book characters.😌


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. Heyyyy! My name is Agbaje Olohuntosin Omolara. Most people call me Lara, a few people call me Shukrah, but I really prefer Lara of the Wildfire. It’s quite a mouthful, but it’s such a sexy name! I’m a content manager, so this means I create content for different brands. Blog content, social media content, email content and the works. I’m also training to become a product designer, because tech is where the money’s at, yo!

Lara sitting at a high point in Ibadan
Agbaje Olohuntosin Omolara

Q. Why do you do your job, and would you rather do something else?

A. I started in the world of content creation because of my natural flair for writing. I studied Chemistry at The University of Ibadan, yeah? But after graduation, I started getting writing gigs and it just went on from there. Currently, I’m hella tired of the content world. I’m a creative writer above all else, but this job is sucking the joy out of writing for me, and I’ll very much like to stop before that happens. And that’s the real reason why I am training to be a product designer.

Q. What is the best thing about what you do?

A. Seeing as I’m tired of the job, this might be difficult to answer. But if I absolutely have to, I’ll say the best thing about it is the fact that I get to do it from home. I honestly can’t imagine a world where I have to leave my house every day for work. Am die, mehn.

Q. What do you appreciate about yourself and what would you like to change?

A. I absolutely love how creative I am, especially with words. I can make a story out of any situation and that keeps me entertained, you know? Reality can be too much a lot of times, these stories I tell myself kind of make things easier. What I would love to change…well. I tend to be very forgetful, geez! I would definitely want to change this.

Q. Do you consider that people are basically bad or basically good?

A. Good or bad? Wow. That’s an overly simplistic way to categorize people that are anything but. I don’t believe one person is just good, or that another is just bad. I strongly believe that good and bad is something that we all carry within us, and what we exhibit is the side we nurture. Besides, we never really know what we’ll do in a situation until we’re actually living in it. Will I do the ‘good’ thing when xxx happens? Honestly, there is no telling. I could be a monster.

Q. What kind of people do you allow into your circle?

A. Kind people. I love love kind, deliberate people. Also, I have a natural affinity for writers, readers and dreamers. I kind of just meet them and we decide to do life together.

Q. What have you accomplished so far that has made you proud?

A. I recently published my debut book, Letters, Stamps and Seals, and that book is literally a part of my soul set on paper for the whole world to see. I was freaking terrified before it was published, but I’m also damn proud of myself for what I have done with that book.

Lara at her book launch, Letter, Stamps and Seals

Q. What two things do you think of the most each day and why?

A. (Insert laughing emoji) Food and money na. I never know what to eat, and I like food die! So that’s kind of a recurrent thought. I’m always thinking of money as well, because tbh, money can solve A LOT of your problems! To quote Ari, “Whoever said money can’t solve your problems must not have had enough money to solve em.”

Q. If money was not relevant, what would you do all day?

A. I’ll read! Fantasy, YA, Sci-Fi, Thriller,Poetry, any damn thing that catches my eyes, I’ll read it! I can already picture me lounging all day, reading, drinking tea and eating cake. I’ll also travel a lot and take a lot of landscape pictures. To paraphrase something one of my favorite IG poets said, I have a spinning compass where my heart should be. If money isn’t an issue, I’ll let that compass take me everywhere.

I recently published my debut book, Letters, Stamps and Seals, and that book is literally a part of my soul set on paper for the whole world to see. I was freaking terrified before it was published, but I’m also damn proud of myself for what I have done with that book.

Agbaje Olohuntosin Omolara on Thursday Talk Series

Q. If like a movie your life up to this point is played for you to watch, describe how you’d feel about it?

A. I’d probably say something along the lines of ‘Why the fu*k am I being made to watch this?” while I cringe and try not to die from second-hand embarrassment.


Thank you Lara for the interview, it was my pleasure and all the best with product designing. And thank you guys for showing up every Thursday.❤️

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I’m reading Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged, and the book has taken over my life. Literally. It’s Thursday already, you see what I’m saying. The last thing I remember was diving into the book, and that was Monday. A little something from that corner.

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Thursday Talk Series on How Musti Interprets The World

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Fam! How are y’all doing? Happy New Month of September 🥰. I guess some of us entered this month with enough energy to power the entire Lagos mainland, while some had to drag themselves over the threshold. I can speak for myself when I say the past two weeks were awesome. Stressful? Of course, but I had amazing company and just top-of-the-shelf good vibes. So I was able to enter this month with a ton of reserve positive energy just in case things move south. Whatever means you had to employ to step into this month, I am super excited that you are here, and on behalf of today’s participant, I’ll share a poem at the end to celebrate the month🔥🔥🔥

Now we are here, I don’t think there’s an authentic way to introduce Musti, our guest today, without sounding like I’m making things up. So settle down because this will take a while.

Good, if you follow TTS, then you know I talk about first meetings making a lasting impression on me. However, meeting Musti for the first time was one of the exceptions. I think I forgot his name and face about 5mins later the first time we met. Also, nothing remarkable happened the second time, or the third, or the fourth time or the fifth time. Then suddenly, like an idea forming in my subconscious, one moment he wasn’t there, and the next he was there. His presence was very audible and refused to be ignored. From books to poems to songs and movies, there’s always something Musti wants to share; as if he can’t help it and he has made a vow to not keep all of the beautiful things he has stumbled across in this world to himself. One day I realized that I also couldn’t help but lean closer to hear him talk about a beloved book character, or mirror his enthusiasm for a renowned poet, or sing along, albeit in disharmony to our favorite cartoon songs, or make a complete fool of myself serenading to strangers because Musti, he would be right beside me doing the same madness. Musti has a kind heart and a loving nature, and he’s fond of sitting in quiet places contemplating who sang it better – Frank Sinatra or Rihanna. He’s also an apt teacher and a rascal. Okay, I’ll allow you to meet him now.


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. Yes, I can! My name is Mosi ‘Musti’ Gomina, the treasure of the heavens and earth. What I do is interpret—and I can do it with everything. At the moment, that means research, writing, data analysis (I call it Datacrafting), reading, sleeping, being God’s favourite baby, et cetera.

Mosi Musti Gomina at a wedding reception
Mosi ‘Musti’ Gomina

Q. Why do you do your job?

A. I love it! I do many things, to be honest, but they are all one thing for me—interpreting (or making sense of the world). So, I love it. And that’s why I do it.

Q. What is the best thing about what you do?

A. Interpretation is something that requires distinguishing truth from falsehood, pretensions from practicalities, people from puppets. Also, I think it is marvelous that men can think, and write, and sing, and paint, and eat, and sleep, and every other thing that we do. To capture all that with texts or digits—that’s magic and more. The best thing about all these? I am changing the world, redefining and rebuilding its foundations.

Q. What’s the difference between living and existing?

A. And here is where I quote Tupac: to have something worth living and dying for. So, for me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. In other words, knowing and accepting my true identity, no masks or mascaras, no veils, nothing but the truth, this is living. All else is dust and dung.

Q. Do you think we have a greater purpose or are we just waiting for our turn to die?

A. Greater purpose, absolutely! My Dao is Christ, so my opinion here is a no-brainer.

Q. What was the last book you read?

This is the first difficult question. I read many books concurrently. But I follow multiple Xianxia novels, so Emperor’s Domination and Library of Heaven’s Path?

Q. What two things do you think of the most each day?

A. This is easy. I think about God—how awesome He is to make wings fit eggs, roars fit cats, minds fit dust, and every other wonderful transformation on Earth and Heaven. The second is my immediate family. There’s a love that we can only feel with family.

Q. What kind of people do you allow into your circle?

A. Hopeful people. Happy people. Kind people. Smart people. In that order.

Mosi Gomina at a wedding reception

I think it is marvelous that men can think, and write, and sing, and paint, and eat, and sleep, and every other thing that we do. To capture all that with texts or digits—that’s magic and more. The best thing about all these? I am changing the world, redefining and rebuilding its foundations.

Mosi ‘Musti’ Gomina on Thursday Talk Series

Q. What’s your idea of real success?

A. To be. Again, I lean towards something I heard Tupac say: that he is able to stare into the mirror and like what he sees. That is real success. To be everything you are, nothing less.

Q. If you could, what’s the one thing you’d change about the world?

A. Hm. Change anything and it is no longer the world as we see it. Can I change how long we have to wait for writers to finish their books?


Thank you so much Musti for this interview and for the one picture you let me have😂 And to everyone who stayed to the end, thank you very much and there’s your poem below. Have a fine Thursday.

Until next time,

Stay Jiggy❤️

Earth has not anything to show more fair:
Dull would he be of soul who could pass by
A sight so touching in its majesty:
This City now doth, like a garment, wear
The beauty of the morning; silent, bare,
Ships, towers, domes, theatres, and temples lie
Open unto the fields, and to the sky;
All bright and glittering in the smokeless air.
Never did sun more beautifully steep
In his first splendour, valley, rock, or hill; Ne’er saw I, never felt, a calm so deep!
The river glideth at his own sweet will:
Dear God! the very houses seem asleep;
And all that mighty heart is lying still!

Composed upon Westminster Bridge, September 3rd, 1802 by William Wordsworth

What I’m Thinking About

This plate of spaghetti😭

Plate of spaghetti and sauce beside a window.

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Thursday Talk Series| Why I Love The Things I Do By Muyiwa

Rigozo

Yesterday I met two old friends and I really can’t describe the feeling. The first person I met gave me the feel warm like I get when I’m wearing my favorite hoody. The second person felt a lot like coming home after a very long trip. I rushed down the road for a hug and almost knocked down both of us in my excitement. I can truly say with my full chest that yesterday was a lovely day. They both made me realize that I’ve not just been existing. Over the years I’ve lived my life experiencing a myriad of wonderful and amazing people. Quite a number of them were featured on Thursday Talk Series, and it has been a pleasure. Even when the world presents itself as a terrible place, and the struggle is unending, just having good people in your life can make the difference between living and existing.

Glad to have Muyiwa here today🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 and I need to let y’all know that he’s got the personality to make you want to never part with him. You’ll probably be daunted by his 6ft + height when you first meet (I’m 5.9 but I feel like a troll beside him) but he’s the proper gentleman and soon he’ll have you putty in his palms. Plus he gives the best hugs (like a human-size teddy bear). And his mind is a beautiful place, with a unique style of storytelling. What’s striking about Muyi is that he doesn’t put up appearances, and he takes you as you come and impresses on you that you are more than enough. He’s eager to learn as well as teach, talk and listen, laugh and cry, whatever it takes to make you feel appreciated – Mr Nice Guy has nothing on him.


Q. Can you introduce yourself and what you do?

A. My name is Are Victor Olumuyiwa, a perfect description of Christ’s love to man (I didn’t even have to cook this up sef) but that’s it sha. I’m a Nigerian, lol😄 I feel like I should stress that I’m proudly Nigerian. I love my country although her matter dey tire me sometimes, but I really love her. What do I do? I serve God for a living! Like that’s the most important thing that I do, and I get paid for it (you want to know how? You’re welcome to find out, it’s not that deep but it is😁). I’m also a freelance content writer, give me any topic Nwanne’m and I will serve you hot-hot. I’m also just starting to build a life from photography, so yeah I think we’re fine here.

Are Muyiwa wearing Traditional attire
Are Victor Olumuyiwa

Q. Why do you do your job? And would you rather do something else?

A. Mehn, I’ve tried a lot of stuff, I’ve done things but I’ve not felt this measure of peace, joy, and fulfillment that comes from these (the things I do). The fact that it has an impact on men is humbling and a joy to behold( KJV things). I’ve had people read my stuff and just love me, pure love please 😊 it’s beautiful. Would I rather do something else? I don’t know, something like what abeg?

Q. What is the best thing about what you do?

A. Its influence on people, a writer’s pen is such a powerful tool..look at famous writers from Chimamanda Adichie to John Grisham, Francine Rivers to Peter Abrahams, Myles Munroe to Brian Tracy.

Are Victor Olumuyiwa

Q. What do you feel you take for granted and how does it affect you?

A. In the past it used to be good health. I almost lost my life in 2019, and that experience shaped a lot of things for me. If you have noticed with men, na when you escape death once, you go just wise anyhow😄. You start to see things differently. Now it has to be rest. I think a lot of people take this for granted. When I don’t have enough rest, some part of my face starts to twitch, like my eyes, nose, and lips start to move involuntarily. It’s important to rest when you need to, if you don’t have enough rest when you should, one day you’ll be lying down on a hospital bed.

Q. Can you describe the person that knows you best?

A. I know myself best abeg😄😄. My family (it’s a large family), I think everyone is pretty much on the same level.

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Q. What two things do you think of the most each day and why?

A. Easy something 😋 Number 1 (in Ghanian English), God’s love for me. I really like to dwell there for many reasons, one of which is that it fills me with so much love and grace to extend to the next person. Number two is God’s word. I love to meditate on the scriptures a lot. They get me excited, they have me saying ‘Glory to God’ one minute and ‘Woosh, praise God’ the next minute. They keep my mind sane, healthy, and with the right vibes. I’m very loud about my faith (with my full chest), as I am not a secret service agent for Christ.

Q. What do you appreciate about yourself and what would you like to change?

A. Well…I appreciate that there’s no end to what I’m capable of, lol. It’s hard to see me finish, laye. You think this is it, something new pops up. What would I like to change? My shoe size😭😍😭😭. I have a pair of black shoes, size 50. I’ve started wearing 49/48 though, but I get to pull it off sometimes so that blood can flow through the veins in my leg or else I’d have to go to the toilet to stretch my legs (no jokes) People with big legs don’t usually have fine shoes😓. Please join me in prayers – size 45 is the prayer request.

Are Victor Olumuyiwa

Q. Do you consider that people are basically bad or basically good?

A. I came into a world filled with complexes. I’d have loved to have the world in a monochrome filter though, because it’s peaceful, and life would have been easier to live I think. You are either white or black.

Q. Would you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert and why?

A. I’m a mix of both really, but more introverted. Okay, let’s just pick one. I love my space, and I enjoy it. I love my room a lot! And my room loves me too. I know how to have fun alone. Bored? How? But if the occasion demands that I be an extrovert, why not? I will play the role well. My brothers; Chyke and Sojay have done an exceptional job in getting that part of me out.

Mehn, I’ve tried alot of stuff, I’ve done things but I’ve not felt this measure of peace, joy and fulfillment that come from these (the things I do). The fact that it has impact on men is humbling and a joy to behold (KJV things). I’ve had people read my stuff and just love me, pure love please 😊 it’s beautiful.

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Q. What would top your list as the craziest thing you’ve done in the name of love?

A. Mehn..craziest…hmm (thinking). Well, would you call writing an original poem – never before seen, not on the internet – every Saturday of the year, and 30 extra poems (originals too) on her birth month, crazy? If it is, then that has to be my craziest😁


Thank you so much Muyi for being here. You have been amazing all through the years and I wish you more grace❤️ And thanks to everyone for reading.

A picture I took last week
Burke Uzzle, ”Photography is a love affair with life.”
Love this quote

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