Even though society has expectations and gender roles for girls, there are commonly two types of girls out there. There’s the girly girl and the tomboy.
Who’s a girly girl?
A girly girl is a term for a girl or woman who dresses and acts in the traditional feminine way. Sorta like a real-life barbie, you ken? A girly girl’s manners, attitude, make-up, clothes, nails, perfumes, and everything screams, ‘I’m team XX Chromosomes’.
FYI: Girly girls are not dumb.
Who’s a tomboy?
The opposite of a girly girl is a tomboy. Girls who behave in a boyish manner – they do activities or have lifestyles that are associated with boys.
FYI: Tomboys do not stand up to take a piss.
Movies portray tomboy and girly girl characters. They also like to do it in contrast.
- Snow White and Mulan (Disney Princesses)
- Sansa and Arya Stark (Game of thrones)
- Sam and Carly (Nickelodeon’s iCarly)
- Black Widow and Scarlet Witch (Avengers)
I’m not a girly-girl
Not in this lifetime.
You may be a bit confused about me if we met for the first time. My friend Vee said I look like Huey from the BOONDOCKS because of my clothes and hair – I took it as a compliment. That day, I was wearing a vintage shirt, sweatpants, and flip-flops (yup, work clothes). My hair was in a twist-out and trust afro hair to be extra like that.
So, does this mean that I don’t do girly-girl?
I have the best of both worlds
I get to do both girly girl and tomboy whenever I feel like it. This is why being a girl is AWESOME.
Here’s a description of myself.
I’m 5’9. I want to get to 5’11 or 6’.
I’m slim. Some say I’m petite – together with my height I give off a wannabe supermodel vibe.
I’m soft-spoken. I get complimented for my voice – but in my opinion, I sound like a bird in distress.
I wear glasses sometime. I look like a hot nerdy girl on a good day. Or a hot mess – which is every other day.
I don’t wear make-up. Not because I don’t like it, I just haven’t learned how to do it. The best I can do is eyeliner, which gives me the goth look.
My wardrobe consists of t-shirts, hoodies (stolen), jeans, sweatpants, leggings, shorts, flip-flops, sandals, and sneakers. Black is my favorite color for outfits.
I like the outdoors. If it involves photography, hike, and nature walk, count me in.
I watch Disney. My favorite Disney princess is Mulan.
I wear hair extensions and wigs. I can be a blonde or a red-haired wench.
I want to ride a power bike. I’m yet to learn how to ride a bicycle.
I enjoy sewing. Yup, I learned how to sew professionally. I can sew gowns, skirts, shirts and blouses, trousers, etc. I rarely sew clothes for myself, but I can if I want to.
I get my monthly red paycheck. It’s so annoying that cramps are literally a pain-in-the-ass.
I like pink. More like baby pink.
I can’t stand strong fragrance. Perfumes can be tricky.
I love romance novels and books. Jane Austen is my woman. K-drama is superb.
I love action movies.
I don’t cry. Except when I like to break a nail or something.
I paint my nails. I grow my nails long, and I must confess that painting them myself is therapeutic.
I think heels are insane. Even though I can’t wear them without breaking my neck, I still love how elegant and fancy female heeled shoes are. I just need practice.
I make googly eyes at kittens and puppies. So cute.
I do yoga.
I wrestle with my brothers. This is no longer a frequent or fun activity because my brothers can swat me like a fly.
I like books, cakes, chocolate and tea, please. I also drink with my pinky-up – elegant.
Yes, and yes, to ruffles, laces, sequins, and glitters. Just don’t overdo it or I’ll puke.
I always wear jewelry. I don’t have a preference. Gold or silver; chunky or moderate; minimal or over the top. And I like craft pieces too – beads, ropes, stones, etc.
There’s everything right about wearing my extra-large t-shirts and shorts – it’s comfortable. And, I also like that I can do a switch up to a girly girl. So for every girl out there, if you are reading this, know that it is okay to be you – no matter what society’s expectations of who a girl should be. Whether you choose girly girl or tomboy, or do both, being a girl means you have the best of both worlds.👩🏽👨🏽❤❤❤