Day 15 – Girl – Waking Dreams Unmasked

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Even though society has expectations and gender roles for girls, there are commonly two types of girls out there. There’s the girly girl and the tomboy.

Who’s a girly girl?

A girly girl is a term for a girl or woman who dresses and acts in the traditional feminine way. Sorta like a real-life barbie, you ken? A girly girl’s manners, attitude, make-up, clothes, nails, perfumes, and everything screams, ‘I’m team XX Chromosomes’.

FYI: Girly girls are not dumb.

Who’s a tomboy?

The opposite of a girly girl is a tomboy. Girls who behave in a boyish manner – they do activities or have lifestyles that are associated with boys.

FYI: Tomboys do not stand up to take a piss.

Movies portray tomboy and girly girl characters. They also like to do it in contrast.

Snow White and Mulan (Disney Princesses)
Sansa and Arya Stark (Game of thrones)
Sam and Carly (Nickelodeon’s iCarly)
Black Widow and Scarlet Witch (Avengers)

I’m not a girly-girl

Not in this lifetime.

You may be a bit confused about me if we met for the first time. My friend Vee said I look like Huey from the BOONDOCKS because of my clothes and hair – I took it as a compliment. That day, I was wearing a vintage shirt, sweatpants, and flip-flops (yup, work clothes). My hair was in a twist-out and trust afro hair to be extra like that.

So, does this mean that I don’t do girly-girl?

Nah.

I have the best of both worlds

I get to do both girly girl and tomboy whenever I feel like it. This is why being a girl is AWESOME.

Here’s a description of myself.

I’m brown-skinned.

I’m 5’9. I want to get to 5’11 or 6’.

I’m slim. Some say I’m petite – together with my height I give off a wannabe supermodel vibe.

I’m soft-spoken. I get complimented for my voice – but in my opinion, I sound like a bird in distress.

I wear glasses sometime. I look like a hot nerdy girl on a good day. Or a hot mess – which is every other day.

I don’t wear make-up. Not because I don’t like it, I just haven’t learned how to do it. The best I can do is eyeliner, which gives me the goth look.

My wardrobe consists of t-shirts, hoodies (stolen), jeans, sweatpants, leggings, shorts, flip-flops, sandals, and sneakers. Black is my favorite color for outfits.

I like the outdoors. If it involves photography, hike, and nature walk, count me in.

I watch Disney. My favorite Disney princess is Mulan.

I wear hair extensions and wigs. I can be a blonde or a red-haired wench.

I want to ride a power bike. I’m yet to learn how to ride a bicycle.

I enjoy sewing. Yup, I learned how to sew professionally. I can sew gowns, skirts, shirts and blouses, trousers, etc. I rarely sew clothes for myself, but I can if I want to.

I get my monthly red paycheck. It’s so annoying that cramps are literally a pain-in-the-ass.

I like pink. More like baby pink.

I can’t stand strong fragrance. Perfumes can be tricky.

I love romance novels and books. Jane Austen is my woman. K-drama is superb.

I love action movies.

I don’t cry. Except when I like to break a nail or something.

I paint my nails. I grow my nails long, and I must confess that painting them myself is therapeutic.

I think heels are insane. Even though I can’t wear them without breaking my neck, I still love how elegant and fancy female heeled shoes are. I just need practice.

I make googly eyes at kittens and puppies. So cute.

I do yoga.

I wrestle with my brothers. This is no longer a frequent or fun activity because my brothers can swat me like a fly.

I like books, cakes, chocolate and tea, please. I also drink with my pinky-up – elegant.

Yes, and yes, to ruffles, laces, sequins, and glitters. Just don’t overdo it or I’ll puke.

I always wear jewelry. I don’t have a preference. Gold or silver; chunky or moderate; minimal or over the top. And I like craft pieces too – beads, ropes, stones, etc.

Conclusion

There’s everything right about wearing my extra-large t-shirts and shorts – it’s comfortable. And, I also like that I can do a switch up to a girly girl. So for every girl out there, if you are reading this, know that it is okay to be you – no matter what society’s expectations of who a girl should be. Whether you choose girly girl or tomboy, or do both, being a girl means you have the best of both worlds.👩🏽👨🏽❤❤❤